When I get dressed, she moans that my clothes aren't nice.When I eat she moans about that. When I get into bed, its too rough, When I do anything,its just not good enough.Why is she like this?
2006-10-02 22:06:43 · 29 answers · asked by SteelJazz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
" If a man says something in the woods, and there is no woman around to hear it, is he still wrong?"
You are suffering from the her attitude that you are somehow not the guy she wanted. This manifests itself with the constant do it differently crap. Its time for you to put your foot down. She is not your mother. The simple statement needs to be made that you are who you are and if she cannot find something to like without changing may be time to put an end to it. This will either wake her up or you will be free to search out someone who likes you.
This attitude does not change without some drastic action. She probably does not even understand or care how this chips away at your self esteem.
This is the classic nag behavior. Put a stop to it. Just because you are married does not give her the right to do this crap.
2006-10-02 23:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either you have done something that has made her less interested in the relationship (cheating) or she is got something going on in her life. Has she just had a baby and loosing sleep, does she have a medical issue that is going on? The question is really to vague not enough information. Why, don't you have a talk with her and find out what is going on. Many times at the end of a relationship the very things that you were able to over look in someone are the very things that become intolerable. What if anything significant has changed, just before the behaviors began. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-10-02 22:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are five qualities that a woman must have at minimum to be considered a "good" woman. They are:
1> Honesty
2> Loyalty
3> Trustworthiness
4> Flexibility
5> Giving personality
The last two are her "attitude". Your wife's attitude is the problem. She is a ****** and complainer which means she is not giving nor flexible. It has nothing to do with you and all to do with her. She has a flaw somewhere in her marital personality. Good luck. If you don't have kids, then you might have a decision to make. If you do have kids, then you need to work on yourself to avoid her short comings because you are not going to change her and any attempt at trying will only make matter worst.
2006-10-02 22:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would seem that maybe your wife is having some issues of her own. She may be lashing out at you for something that is going on at work, with friends or family.
Try to talk to her about what you are feeling. She may not notice that your feelings are getting hurt. If you can discuss this with her openly and honestly, you may be able to find out what's going wrong.
I hope you guys are able to get onto some sort of common ground and work through this. It really sounds like the problem lies with her and not you.
2006-10-02 22:11:15 · answer #4 · answered by Older Sister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would need to know a few more facts here, but it sounds like the TWO of you are in a RUT. Someone isn't Happy at all. Something is gonna have to CHANGE in a BIG way,or the two of you are headed for a separation,or divorce.Try to get with me on messenger,if you would like, can talk more detailed, but here is a good place on my site too.Heck, I was 33 years married, so u NEED to hear me well. GET OUTTA THE RUT AND INTO URE WOMAN
2006-10-02 23:15:35
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It can be for many reasons, depending on the length of time that you all have been married.
If you have been recently married, she could be trying to impose dominance in the relationship so that she can easily control in the future.
If you have been married for a while now and she has now become like that, then I will suggest that you fine out what or who is her most recent love.
Check it out, when you and other people start to condemn something, it is mostly when we have something else to fill our interest.
2006-10-02 22:19:08 · answer #6 · answered by awaxa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put her in check! Im not saying beat her but give her a taste of what your going through, one on one. If she doesnt agree and continues, well leave the house and go to a hotel, then she'll get the hint, because if she loves you shell follow you!! Remember its a one week thing so take some extra clothes...
2006-10-02 22:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two reasons why she may be doing this.
1. She may be very happy with herself and can only make herself feel better by constantly grinding you down.
2. She is angry or resentful of you about something else and is not addressing it.
During a relaxed time for both of you, talk to her about it. Let her know how she makes you feel. I don't usually recommend couseling but it could help if you want to make your marriage work.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-02 22:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is either pregnant or cheating on you or both and it's not yours. seriously. When a woman bitches more often it shows a lack of respect in the relationship. Soon, that turns to hate and when she feels that for you she wants to hurt you as much as possible. Bitching and moaning is the first phase. Soon you will stop having sex, if you haven't already. Sorry
2006-10-02 22:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by phe_03 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she's a woman.
True, men do it too, sorry ladies, but women do tend to nitpick much more than guys do...
Perhaps you need to tell her to knock it off and that you've had enough of it, and see what she says...
Not much fun staying married to someone who treats you like crap all the time.
P.s. when she reads what you wrote, she'll probably complain about that too
2006-10-02 22:09:46 · answer #10 · answered by iswd1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋