I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, he was previously married and has a 4 year old son, he has a good relationship with his ex, which is of no bother to me, I think it is a good thing they can get along, but, the one thing that does bother me, they speak on the phone every day, (she does have a boyfriend) she calls when we are away on holiday, at weekends, first thing in the morning, I asked my boyfriend if it was possible if these calls could be toned down just a bit, mornings, let our weekends and holidays be ours without all these calls, he says I am being very unreasonable, please someone tell me, am I being unreasonable to ask for these calls to be toned down a bit, is it wrong for us to have our time without interruptions??
2006-10-02 22:00:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should make your point clearly without getting too angry. Tell him that the calls are too much and that you want some time for just the two of you. You obviously appreciate that he has a previous relationship which warrants some of his time, but he should also consider his new relationship with you and that you need to feel special too.
I think he should restrict the calls to maybe 3 or 4 times a week at most, more if the son needs help - medical, school or whatever. The calls at weekends and during holidays should be stopped completely.
Hopefully you can resolve this amicably without upsetting his "ex" too - if your relationship with her is good, maybe you can speak to her about it too?
2006-10-02 22:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not unreasonable to ask for some time for the two of you...but maybe his ex was a big part of his life at one point....it's good that they get along and that you don't have a problem with it..if he was talking to his son then fair enough but why should they speak every day?, ask your boyfriend if her boyfriend doesn't think the same and tell him your glad they get along and you don't want to come between that but what about this coming between the two of you
2006-10-02 22:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by xx_lush_xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no....I've no idea what the heck need there is for a phone call per day....unless there is a medical condition involving the child there isn't one that warrants that kind of continued contact.
2006-10-02 22:12:02 · answer #3 · answered by mildly_adiktiv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like BS to me. If he and she are divorced or over, then it is over. This constant thing is not right. Maybe you should call one of your exes and start the calls with him. See how your bf feels.
2006-10-03 01:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋