My hubby is very close with this colleague who is 9 years older than him and is also married. I have seen mushy sms send by her to him & vice-versa. They are in very good talking terms and when he found out that i saw the sms, he got quite furious. Yesterday, i dreamt about him having an affair with her. In my dreams, he confess that he likes her, had sex with her etc. This may sound stupid to some, but i really hope someone could help me interpret my dreams vs the reality cause i think i am going crazy soon. It seems like the reality is what i have dreamt. How true is it?
2006-10-02 21:24:13 · 20 answers · asked by missy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that you are concerned about the relationship that your husband is having with the woman because your subconscious senses (correctly) that they are emotionally too close. The only person who should be sending him gushing text messages is you! That is why you are his wife. And he should be sending them to you and no one else. This is such a common pattern in marriage that it should discussed as part of getting a marriage license: once the deal is closed people start taking each other for granted and are turned-on by the next new thing. Right now there is a battle being waged for his romantic attention and she is winning because she has his mind. That mind belongs to you and him as long as it is romantic in nature. That is the whole point of marriage. They can text each other about work and have fun but not be romantic in doing so. You are not crazy. Trust me - I am divorced primarily because I allowed someone else other than my wife and I to control our romantic mind in our marriage. This Chicky needs to go. But you can't sledge hammer him or her. You have to do somethings differently to grab his attention and you have to be patient. Take baby steps. Surprise him by taking him to his favorite restaurant or by cooking his favorite meal or take him to see his favorite team. Show him that you care and get out of the current routine of your marriage. That man is your husband so don't let some other woman steal his heart but don't behave like a jealous lunatic either (not that you are but I am just stating this here to be clear). Marriages require work and that means at minimum you must be proactive and not passive.
2006-10-02 22:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not stupid at all - a dream is simply a dream. Is it true? Maybe - it's what's troubling you anyway - the possibility of it being true.
You need to talk to your husband about it. It's causing you great pain. If it is true then there will be more pain to deal with but at least you will know the truth. You deserve to know the truth. If he says it's not true would you be satisfied with his statement or would you still lack trust?
These are some of the issues you will face. It might help to have some counseling to get you through this.
Good luck and please ignore the first response (very hurtful).
2006-10-02 21:46:35 · answer #2 · answered by Dastardly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about the dream?
The dream is most likely your way of processing the information about your husband and his colleague. The events in your dream are not real, just a projection using your active imagination. Wait to see what you dream about tonight - if it becomes a recurring dream then you may have some issues to deal with.
2006-10-02 21:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by advent m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems it interprete nothing but yourself and your mental torture by it.
dreams are reflections of your thinking during the day and the intense concentration it has taken.
seems you feel insecure and fear for the worst in the friendship.
clear your mind and fear solve it or be comforted by some other means.
last but not least, if things are beyond controla nd you've rtried and done your best...let it be and be prepared for the worst.
leats if and hopefully not, it comes true, the impact would be less. whatever comes,remember that there're always a tomorrow that brighter than yesterday but just we dont know where to find it?
thats life . . . take it as it is. life's fate and destiny is involved.
2006-10-03 13:24:51 · answer #4 · answered by superyoyogirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the dream when he was being intimate with her means that he is having a hard time trying to figure out how to talk to you about some thing very important, it may be related to this or it could be some thing else that is important to him. Either way i think if you jump the gun and accuse him of anything he will in turn go out and cheat or do other things to hurt you. Good luck :]
2006-10-02 21:33:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all u have 2 relaxing yourself n let your brain rest.B'cos u think so much that why u have a dream like this.Every thing stay calm mam.1 thing u have to do is take care of your own husband.Advise him not 2 stay too close with her colleague b'cos she already have a husband.lf not it will cos troubled if her husband find out that they r so close.Do your best.Up 2 here 4 2 day.
2006-10-03 00:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dream has its roots in your suspicion and sense of insecurity, not any reality. Dreams are just dreams - not to be taken seriously.
Your suspicion, however, needs to be addressed. First of all, you must decide what you would do if your suspicions were true. If you still want to be with him, you have to cleverly create situations to distance him from her. If you want to break up in case he is indeed having an affair with her, then you must have courage to tell him about your suspicion and work further to establish the truth for you to take necessary action.
2006-10-02 21:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by small 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we often dream about the last thing we think about before we go to sleep. some of us remember some of us don't. This is obviously playing on your mind and you believe there is something going on and your sub conscious will trigger off all sorts of weird thoughts. The only way to find out is to ask them or to make plans to follow him.(not recommended really) but sometimes the only way you will know. tell him that his behavior regards her is inappropriate as was his anger at you seeing his texts. tell him you think your relationship is in trouble of you do not get this worked out. this could be very innocent and it could not be, but dreaming about it also does not make it fact. you have a lot going on in your mind and it is playing tricks on you.
2006-10-02 21:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, you had that dream. You are losing trust of your hubby. It is very normal you dreamt of that.
However, that is your dream, your subconscious mind. To find out the truth, you have to either talk to your hubby or hire a detective to investigate. That feeling of yours goes into your mind and your dream because you didn't trust him and you wanted to vent it out and release your anxiety in dream.
2006-10-03 04:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dream is your unconscious mind putting all the clues together and serving it up to you in a state it feels you can handle,read what you just wrote here its as clear as day,mushy sms,anger at being confronted (by the truth).i think you know the truth be honest with yourself,thats what your dream is telling you
2006-10-02 21:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by seth s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋