After 20 years (no kids) my now ex dumped me three years ago for a younger, prettier, more supportive etc woman. Now he wants to be friends. Should I return his calls?
2006-10-02 21:00:03 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
THANK YOU!!!
So many wonderful answers. I really appreciate the pep talks. I needed it.
2006-10-02 23:11:35 · update #1
tell him to get lost!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-02 21:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by david429835 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I've never been married, I've had 3 long (over 4 years) relationships. I've remained friends with all of them.
Once engaged, I was the "Guest of Honor" at my ex fiances new wives bachelorette party. Even went to their house after the wedding reception and helped them open gifts. Thinking of that now, it was probably not appropriate to be that involved, but at the time it seemed right for the three of us. Of course everyone at the wedding thought it was strange that I even showed my face. His family understood, it's just something you go through, when after 6 years you realize you're better off as friends, the family still knows and loves you. Always be friends with an ex unless, well, in your situation, that's tough. It wasn't mutual, he hurt you bad. But after 20 years together, you have to realize that he was a huge part of your life. Maybe you should try a short call.
2006-10-02 21:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by dolphinroc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As there are no children involved, there is absolutely no reason for you to stay in touch with this man. Unless you are 100% over him, and if you don't mind me saying, I don't think you are, you should politely ask him to leave you alone and tell him that you would like to move on without him in your life. Having him as a friend will just not work as you are not over him. Clean break, fresh start.
2006-10-02 21:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your call, time to put things on your own terms.
If you want to speak to him do it, if you don't then don't.
If you want to speak to him just to unload your pent up anger do it and then decide if you still want to speak to him after.
He obviously broke all the ground rules three years ago so d what you want just keep control of the situation don't get sucked in just because he may be fed up with the new model.
Unless you want to but I would not advise it.
2006-10-02 21:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by philipscottbrooks 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!! Unless you think there can be a long term revenge attack on it!! (you meet the ideal partner, and life is a lot happier, and his life hits the rocks - then he can feel gutted on what he missed out on)
By the way, the above paragraph WILL happen. You will have a happy life with an ideal partner.
:-)
2006-10-02 21:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by Smiler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what you want sweetheart.don't let him call the shots as it was he who left you. If you think you can trust him after that then go for it, if you don't want to take the risk tell him to "beat it". Good luck with this one because it is a difficult decision to make for anybody, I hope whatever you choose works out in your favour and makes you happy. x
2006-10-02 21:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in a million yrs, He must go back to his model. call him only to tell him to go back to the one that needs his love. you are through with him. you should not settle for second best, my friend move one. the is one and only Mr right for you out there. be very social and a confident women.
2006-10-02 21:38:51 · answer #7 · answered by Nina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure...unless you have got younger prettier and more supportive there is not chance he would want anything else!!
2006-10-02 21:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!
Just ignore the cheat.
He'll stop calling...
or maybe you can ask him how supportive his new supportive woman would feel about your new found friendship or better yet ask her...
nah that will just bring you to his level
just ignore him
2006-10-02 21:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by figgy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id answer his call but just to tel him to bogg off, oh and find out what happened to his little bit he dumped u for and id laugh when he said it just didn't work out. men like that don't deserve second chances. don't let him get u again he might end up hurting you all over again and it ain't worth it.
2006-10-03 00:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by holly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, let him taste what you can offer to him. Be yourself, let him run around and keep calling you. Don't play is feelings just do whatever your daily life, don't give him a chance to come back to you. There is a lot of guys out there, he is pathetic loser. goodluck!
2006-10-02 21:13:44 · answer #11 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋