my future husband doesnt like my mother.what should i do to change him?

Answer 1

you can't change him....and if you want to, then he's not the right guy for you....he doesn't have to LIKE your mother...he only has to respect the fact that she is your mother and respect the relationship that you have with her....my husband and mother pretty much hate each other, but they tolerate each other because they both love me....

Answer 2

You don't. You shouldn't. You can't. Let me help you get something straight before you get married. Men are not ours to fix. If you don't love him as he is, find someone else. If he doesn't change because he honestly likes her, then anything you do would make him be a liar. The best way he might be able to get over his feelings is by him spending time getting to know her better. I wouldn't push him into it, though. Does your mother like him? There might be more to this than you realize. Maybe the reason he doesn't like her is because she sees something in him that disturbs her, and she's let him know it in some way you haven't noticed. Mom's have the tendancy to see what we can't or refuse to see. I wouldn't rush into marriage too quickly. Give your relationship time to grow. FInd out about each other as much as possible. Marriage needs to be forever, not until the feeling is gone, or if husband doesn't get along with mom. My mother-in-law hated me, but it was because she didn't want anyone marrying her son, not just me. Twenty nine years later, and I'm still the one for my man. But, just try to watch how him and her interact with one another. It might clue you in to what the real problem is. <*)))><

Answer 3

This is not something you can do to change his feelings. What you can do though, is sit them both down, individually, and get to the root of the problem. Don't give up until you get the truth from both. Then you can make suggestions to solve the problem. What you have to impress upon them is get them to understand that if there is not a meting of the minds, all of you will be unhappy.

Ask them to please not let that happen. In order for the marriage to work they have to make it happe.

Answer 4

do not try to change that. unless they fight, it is normal that they hate each other. the majority of people do... why? because the in-laws never accept their children's spouses becuase they feel that they are not good enough for them, because they think that once they marry, their children will keep away from them because of their spouse.... and many more reasons.

Believe me, it is not your husband that you have to change, just make sure that they do not spend time together. The less they know about each other the better.

Answer 5

You must be joking... that's never gonna change. If you need your husband to like your mother, you're gonna have to find a new hubby

Answer 6

You dont have to like the person to tolerate him/her. Unless the rift is caused by some simple misunderstanding i doubt its ever gonna change. Best to just try to make it all work in a different manner.

Answer 7

You can't change him. Take him as he is and if it's going to be a HUGE issue between you, sort it out. How do you feel about his mother?

Answer 8

An old saying.....Never marry with intentions of changing your partner.

Answer 9

change mom... not man.

Chances are, your mom just doesn't want you to get married, which is creating hostility

Answer 10

too bad for you. you cannot change him no matter how hard you try. better luck in your next lifetime because this one was wasted. no sympathy here felt for you. you should have listened to your mother.