*****I feel shy to speak to people in groups******?

Question

feel shy and inferiority complexes to speak with people in crowd. how to overcome.

Answer 1

I used to be that way, but as I got older I got over it.

Here's some steps to help overcome your shyness:

Determine why you're shy in the first place. For example, are you scared of what someone might say about your physical appearance? Remember, there's an underlying reason for how you react in situations.

Just be confident about what you have to say and if you feel like people may critisize you for what you have to say just relax and remember that mistakes help you learn.

Feel positive about yourself, don't get frustrated and have fun.

Remember, the real goal is to find someone who will like you for who you are.

Lower your fear of rejection by imagining the worst possible outcome. If you approach someone, they may say "no" or they may just walk away. Absolutely everybody has been rejected at some point, but no one has to dwell on it.

Practice making eye contact and smiling in your interactions with others. Strike up casual conversations with strangers about weather or current events.

Act as if you're not shy. In private, behave as if you're oozing confidence. Hold your chin up, stick your chest out, add a swagger to your walk and speak firmly. It may seem ridiculous, but you will see results when you're out in public.

Look your best. One way to improve self-consciousness is to always look good and limit ways you can be self-critical.

Look and learn. Watching friends or even strangers who aren't shy is a good way to learn some tips first-hand.

Answer 2

My first attempt at it was a complete embarrassment . . . I was at a Union Hall and I wanted to ask a question I felt no one else had the grapes to ask. . .I had my hand raised and when I was picked. . I completely studded and then forgot what I was going to say. . . I wanted to DIE! I was 26 yrs old.

The next time I felt I had something to say in front of a crowd, I was 32 and I knew that this situation was extremely important and no one else was standing up to do it. Instead of being nervous, I drew on my anger, but remained calm and let it all out. It felt great. I was not allowed to say another word (I was in the Navy and during a weekly meeting I let it be known that the squadron was over working the men and that we were headed for an accident if things did not change. . .things changed immediately, however, no more weekly meeting at least until I got out 3 months later)

But I over came my fear by using my anger and controlling it. Every word came out better than I had planned it. . Adrenalin can be a friend or a foe . . .make it your friend. . .practice with family, then friends and you will master it.

I can speak in any situation with confidence all because I was able to prove it just once that I could do it. . .Good luck. . .

One more thing. . if this is work related, where you will be asked to do this, ask your doctor to prescribe Tenormin. . .it is a Beta Blocker and it blocks the affects of adrenilin. Tell him what you want it for, and he may give it to you in a small dose (25 mg). If you have low blood pressure or a slow beating heart, he won't prescribe it. Many Actors use it to perform on stage. Good luck again

Answer 3

I know exactly how you feel. Its like everyone is looking at you judging and analyzing everything coming out of your mouth. It can be very intimidating and the more nervous you get the more it sounds to yourself like you speaking a lot of nonsense and the more nervous and shy you get. I am a teacher and teach primary school (kids age between 5 and 9years) and when I started out I thought I would never be able to stand in front of a classroom and speak but you know what I find it much easier to talk cause they don't judge. It is becoming more easy to speak in crowds to. All you have to do is practice. It is difficult in the beginning but the more you do it the better it becomes. Good luck!

Answer 4

Most people feel that way, I do. Public speaking can be improved by preparation and practice. Know very well about your topic and practice what you would say and then just go on and say it. Think about that these group you're talking to are also people who, i'm quite sure, has the same problem as you have. So go for it!

Answer 5

inferiority complex is the word coined by Alfred Adler. there are several causes for having inferiority complex. you approach a good behavior psychologist he will solve your problems by exploring the hidden reasons in your unconsciousness which caused inferiority complex. have positive approach towards yourselves. have self esteem. you are not inferior to any body.if you feel shy to talk to others because of language problem develop good communication skills and improve your language. find out in your city one of the best personality development and communication skills development institutes and join in it. you will definitely over come your problems.some times due to anxiety and morbid irrational fears, we could not talk to others. try relaxation techniques and practice before mirror talking thinking you are in the company of hundreds of people.

Answer 6

Try joining a group doing amateur dramatics.It is tricky at first but gradually you will discover that you are able to hold the attention of an audience.After that your confidence will grow .All of us are projecting ourselves in a way similar to an actor when we speak in a group.People will gradually discover the real you .once you get across the shyness hurdle.

Answer 7

whenever you feel shy speaking in a group take a good deep breath and just say what you wanna say without think what will happen or will anyone will feel bad on my words just say it..you gotta keep a strong willingness in your mind about overcoming your shyness..remember all you gotta do is just say the words without think that what other people will think about it...

Answer 8

Small groups you should think of them as Friends and just be your self.. relax larger crowds you have to find a distraction for your self...

Answer 9

When you feel anxious, try to analyze what thoughts you are having. If you think "I am awkward, everything I say is stupid, people will not like me if I say anything" this is an irrational thought, try to think logically if this really makes sense. Challenge yourself to talk to people if you think you are too shy too.

Answer 10

Would you be shy if it there was only one person there? Well, if you can handle one on one then just take one person, one conversation, one thing at a time. Nobody's just standing there looking at you. Most of them are preoccupied with themselves anyway