He told me that when it comes to time off during the X-mas season, priority is given to those with kids. My bf has full custody of his 2 young kids and I love them like my own. Normally I don't care about X-mas or New Years but I asked for Dec 25th and 26th off so I can be with the kids. I hardly ask for time off, didn't take holidays during the summer and I always come in to cover shifts. I'm schedualed to work those days and they're giving me new years off, which I don't care about. It's not me they're letting down, it's the kids. Is there anything I can do to change his mind and make him keep his word?
2006-10-02 20:17:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
if you did not get this in writing i am afraid you are out of luck,,,,he might be thinking that they are not your children but a step mom thing.. he is wrong to act this way and if you left the job he would not know what to do without you. i hope you can some how change his mind...
2006-10-02 20:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the problem. "Employees with kids" get priority. Okay, it is truly a great thing that you consider your boyfriend's kids your own, but they're not yours. If you were to get married and assume them as dependents with your old boyfriend/new husband then they would be yours also and you would have a chance at priority. Other than that happening, even with something in writing, you do not have kids, so you get no priority. After all, this IS what your employer told you when you were hired.
I am not trying to sound mean, but certain jobs have that responsibility and dilemma. In about 15 years between the US Army and then local PD I think I had all of one [1] Thanksgiving off and worked every other "holiday" in that time. But, I knew that was a possibility when I decided to do those jobs. If you want "banker's" hours/days off, apply at a bank or somehwere like the US Postal Service.
2006-10-02 20:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by quntmphys238 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to seek out those employees you know have asked for those days off. Can you negotiate with them to share the time off? If you can work something out with a co-worker, then go to your boss and see if he buys off on your plans.
Remember, the company needs so many employees at work on certain days, you fall into that percentage. Most businesses are closed on Dec 25 or offer overtime to work that day.
Your dilemna is repeated across the world. The longer you work the more you'll realize it's a matter of business priority and employee negotiations. If you work this holiday, perhaps next year you can get off...
2006-10-03 01:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not really unless you want to quit and find something Else . Employers who follow this practice usually lose a lot of good people . I got tired of picking up the slack for Dad's and Mom's that had to take time off to go take kids to the doctors ,Or get off early to pick them up from school. As a single person I got hit with all their work and I didn't feel it was fare . So you can do as I did and move on , or get married and take the time off too. Either way I hope if your involved with a Man with Kids that you not get involved unless your serious with a ring and a date . If not you just hurting those kids......
2006-10-02 20:36:53 · answer #4 · answered by marshoberg55 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that policy sound to me like discrimination.... what about those people who visit family? I would take that up with your HR department, especially if you have proof of what he told you previously, like an email... If you can get him to re-iterate what he said previously you can take that to HR and then he will have no choice but to keep his word..unless what he said is against company policy. Considering you worked your butt off for all the other holidays and ever covered shifts, you should be allowed to. If not... you need to find a new place to work that was fair work practices.
2006-10-02 20:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by justanormalguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normally you would have a contract you can fall back on,,if you dont there is little you can do,,and if you do have a contract see what it says,,some settings,,such as police,nursing homes have to have service providers running 24 hours a day so shift patterns for time off need to be staggered,you get new yrs this year and xmas next,,unfortunate but if nothing is on paper,,you will have to work.
2006-10-02 20:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless u have it in writing, I am afraid that u cannot do much about it. Maybe he is looking at it from the legalistic point of view, they are your Bf's kids. Maybe getting married will help or look for another job.
2006-10-02 20:29:17 · answer #7 · answered by majorcavalry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the united states you have little or no rights to anything work wise -- the good news is you can probably find a better job before christmas.
2006-10-02 20:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
QUIT!!!
2006-10-02 20:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by The Bird 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋