He said the girl sucked his penis and thats how he got it ofcourse I dont believe that...We have been marraied for 4yrs and 2kids 3&5.
2006-10-02 19:58:22 · 16 answers · asked by wonder woo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the std is curable, and he told he as soon as he found out, and he did not give it to me.
2006-10-02 20:03:16 · update #1
And no women I dont need counseling, im perfectly find I am asking YA because I just want to see other womens opions. Instead of telling my family and friends this horrible situation I can count on YA for support/comfort/opions thank you.
2006-10-02 20:10:29 · update #2
No, the PIG!!! cheated so he's an a-moral piece of GARBAGE!!!
2006-10-02 20:26:21 · answer #1 · answered by Ladeebug71 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to tell you, this is a tough one for me. My first instinct was one thing, but then I thought something else, and it took me a long time to make up my mind.
No, I would not try to work things out if my husband got an STD. I also would not try to work it out if he got another woman pregnant. If he had an affair, be it a one night fling or something longer, and he told me about it, I might be willing, in fact probably would be willing to work on it and try to repair our marriage. However, an STD or a pregnancy would, I think, send a message to me. What I would take from that is that he thinks so little of me that he is not only cheating, he is doing it unsafely. It's bad enough to be cheated on without that extra "sorry honey, I was just too horny to be safe" slap in the face.
I cannot really tell you what to do. I can only tell you what I would do, which I just did. Only you can decide what's best for you. I know a lot of people will tell you that you have to think about what's best for your children, and that's true to an extent, but what's best for your kids at this point is whatever is best for you. What I mean by that is that you cannot be the best mom possible if you have other huge issues to deal with. Make sure things are right for you, and when you have done that, you can work on making things right for your children.
Whatever you decide, I wish you the best. I am so sorry that you have to deal with this at all. Please be well.
2006-10-03 04:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by Bronwen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear, you are in a tough situation and I don't think YA is the place to get that resolution. Get counseling ASAP. Your self esteem has taken a beating. Maybe if you both work very hard at it, you'll be able to resolve the pain you have and be able to forgive and trust him again. It won't happen overnight, and it may never happen. But only you can decide that and what is best for your family. Good luck.
2006-10-03 03:03:48 · answer #3 · answered by buddhafuldreamer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, this is really hard.it's really more about the trust than the disease.i mean you already said you didn't believe him on how he caught it..
Do you think if he didn't catch a std you would ever have known?
do you think he would continue cheating?
Is this the only time or the only time he told you because you would have found out due to medical reasons ?
How much do you want this relationship to work?
How much does he?
these are questions i would ask myself
i know you said you are fine you don't need counseling ..but you may want to think about that...maybe marriage counseling see what's going on
2006-10-03 03:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by figgy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow what a crappy situation, but at least you don't believe the B.S.! I guess if I was in your shoes I would have to look at this close. It is hard especially with family and friends saying Leave the dog! But your heart and kids are involved, maybe once I could forgive it but not again, and again and again.
2006-10-03 03:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by pretzel772000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay your husband was wrong and you need to address that b4 thinking about the std . things do happen but he could of put you in a lot of danger if it was not curable.talk to him and if it does come down to it go to couples counseling. better now then later when it becomes an affair with intercourse.but don't let it slide its still cheating,,,, good luck
2006-10-03 03:16:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would dump him quick. Getting a std from some chick is a constant reminder to you that you were cheated on. That's no way to go through life.
2006-10-03 04:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by goodtimeskaraokecompany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only STD I know of that can be cured is the Clap (Chlamidya)
You better make sure that's the one... otherwise, it seems pretty impure to me... kind of the impure blood thing, a tainted life.
If he got it from a *******, it's not curable. The clap doesn't come from a *******...
2006-10-03 03:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by bigcatbarber 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all get tested your self as far as trusting him no way once this happens it will again this is fact he forgot that when he went out and didnt even think of you or the children in my opion no you can do better. my opion?
2006-10-03 03:03:56 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. You need to consider your health first. You're the mother of your children and you need to be there for them.
Tomorrow he may come home with something terminal and pass it on to you. Where would this leave your children? It's not just about you two anymore.
Once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-10-03 03:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that's a tough question. my bf actually gave me an std, yet i still stayed with him. sometimes i wish i hadn't. still i question what i'm doing with him. one thing for sure, i know he lied... either about having it in the first place, or him getting it from some girl. hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-03 03:01:49 · answer #11 · answered by Bena 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋