Ive always been attracted to both men and women. Ive had relationships with both. I just end up with men. I always figured it was out of convience and availability. Im currently with a man who wants to marry me. On one side i like the idea of marriage and children. Im sure i can have that with a women as well. I guess im just confused about being bisexual. Its like something inside of me wants me to decide to be either straight or guy. What if i get married and realize id be happier with a woman. Ive never had a real realationship with a girl. I guess that has always bothered me. Ive never had the change to find out if im really am a lesbian. What should i do? Give up a good man to find the answer to a what if question or make peace with being straight for the rest of my life.
2006-10-02 19:48:39 · 7 answers · asked by Michelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ive always been brutely honest with my boyfriend. He has excepted my bisexuality and loves me regardless. He is however a very gelious. He likes to see me as an inosent virgin girl. I know he wounld take my conflict well and would have a hard time listening or helping with such an issue. I supose that is why i have resorted to asking the internet.
2006-10-03 17:43:17 · update #1
You need to be True to youself and the man you are with,. and let him know the truth.
2006-10-02 19:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often this conflict comes from being gay, but society and family are in line with marriage and children. "AND THUS YOUR CONFLICT!"
If you get married and your lesbian, you will no doubt cheat on your husband with another woman. And/or end up with a divorce!
Thus you were not fair to your husband nor any children you may have! You'll be messing with every ones lives!
Plus you may end up with a lot of hate for your husband or men in in general because you decided wrong!
It seems to me that you should not hook up with any man until you have an honest answer for your question. It may be wiser for you to find a girl friend and have a relationship with her first! This may help you!
2006-10-03 03:32:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very complicated question to say the least. I understand where you are coming from as I swing both ways. I was lucky to find a woman who accepts me for me and doesn't judge, we swing together or alone as she has had no relations with a woman but is curious.
Now on your part I myself would look at the area of does he know this? Can he handle this if you chose both at once? Honesty is key to all relations. I let all mine out on the second date. I do not have a steady man but have a steady woman, Who is opened to my sexuality and multiple partners. I am Bi and a swinger. You need to look at yourself and find what you really want. Both sex's can co-inside in one relationship as long as there is honesty commitment and communication not to mention trust free of in purity and judgment. No one can give you a direct answer, you need to find it for yourself. This is to personal of a question to say either way. One in doing so could run into you hating them for life over a answer and true friends are hard to come by these days.
2006-10-03 03:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by Houndog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get bogged down about it. Even people unconfused about their sexual preferences wonder if they're marrying the right person or whether there is someone out there much better for them. You can't live your life second guessing yourself. If you love each other, make a commitment and stick to it. No "experiments". No fooling around. No games. Stay away from situations that may lead you astray.
2006-10-03 03:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by vinny_the_hack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go bi, get married, (hopefully your man will let you have girls join and if your cool with him being with other women) then the marriage will last n last 4ever!
2006-10-03 02:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Fantasy Sports Guru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay straight. life is less complicated that way. don't mean to be prejudice towards homosexuals having said so
2006-10-03 02:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by listlessbutdiligent 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love him, talk to him, please do not hide this from him, it will only end in despair. If he loves you, he will help you.
Good luck.
2006-10-03 02:54:25 · answer #7 · answered by Tommy G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋