a girl is engaged to a guy, and has been with the guy for 2 years. this girl knows another guy before she met the engaged guy, but stopped talking to him a year before and now resumed talking to him. she says she is committed to her fiance but in fact loves the other guy, what should she do? be committed and the possibility of an unsuccesful marriage? or break off the engagement and see what happens with the other guy?
2006-10-02 19:42:39 · 11 answers · asked by balanced112 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she loved the other guy much more than her fiance and still tells this other guy she loves him, and basically the fiance's relationship is static, and has become something of a monogamy. this other guy on the other hand brings spontaniety to the relationship and she loves him because of that, also this other guy broke it off with her because she was getting too attached and that scared him
2006-10-02 20:20:24 · update #1
first, if she is in love with someone else she would be doing both parties a favor to break the engagement.But i have to ask why did
she stop seeing him to begin with? did he end it or she? She may want to remember that reason and see if it was and is a valid reason.second is she really "in love with him or is it just the "new "excitement that maybe has left her "old" relationship.
Even if she decides she shouldn't be with the "new" guy , something must be missing if she is "cheating" on her fiance whether it be physical or emotional, break it off
2006-10-02 20:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by figgy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She says she loves the other guy? She's not ready to get married. Either is a risky road if she's not going into the marriage with full focus and love for her fiance and in love with some other guy from three years back??? Seems she went into the second relationship for the wrong reasons and her fiance isnt getting true love from her. He should break it off.
2006-10-03 02:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on who's the other guy? And how close were her and the other guy before she became engaged. How willing is she to let go of the OTHER GUY after her marrage. And if she knows she wont' have a successfull marrage because of this other guy then yes she should break off her engagment! But if this other guy is some how better for her, then why the hell not..we only live once! MORE POWER TO HER..and her other guy!
2006-10-03 02:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break off the engagement. Obviously the girl isnt ready for a commited lifelong marriage.
2006-10-03 02:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by RocketGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break the engagement STAT. Yes possibilities of unsuccessful marriage. Yes, see what happens with the other guy. Trust your gut feeling. When in doubt, get out!
2006-10-03 02:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can say is, what she does is her choice and her decision. And besides, how does anyone know her marriage won't be successful? And for that matter, how does she know she will be happy with the one she loves in the long run? Nobody can see that far into the future.
2006-10-03 02:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the girl trully loves the other she will know. And to be true to herself and others she needs to be fair to all including the fiance and tell him how she feels.. No need in starting something with someone she isn't complete with. If he (fiance) trully loves her enough to marry her, he will wait on her decision and be happy if she is happy in whatever choice she makes..
2006-10-03 02:53:21 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break off the engagement until she can figure out which one she wants to be with for sure. Otherwise someones going to get really hurt. It could get really ugly real fast.
2006-10-03 02:54:07 · answer #8 · answered by orlin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off or she will always question her relationship.
2006-10-03 02:45:46 · answer #9 · answered by bekindtoday2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why marry someone you dont love?
Tell her to go for someone that will make her happy.
2006-10-03 02:51:11 · answer #10 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋