we have both went on with our lives and its been 5 months now, why hasnt he sent me divorce papers yet? i cant bring myself to divorce him but if he divorces me i am all for it. what should i do?
2006-10-02 19:25:41 · 19 answers · asked by grniz07 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I suggest you do the filing of the divorce papers. Otherwise, you might go on like this for years. I know several people who have been living apart for years and never did get a divorce.
2006-10-02 19:28:03 · answer #1 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you could't have your cake and eat it too!. in case you do not have self belief in divorce and he has no longer filed for divorce then you fairly could stay married. yet guess what? in case you left him, he can only enable the clock run and in a 12 months or 2, depending upon the state, he can declare you abandoned him and he receives each and each of the resources. in case you no longer have contact, all he could do is placed the divorce be conscious in newspaper and characteristic the papers served at your very last conventional take care of. you gained't recognize of the divorce trial and he wins. you've 2 selections in case you do not opt for to finally end up royally screwed. #a million. YOU record for divorce today. Get an legal specialist and characteristic he placed a freeze on each and each of the resources so your husband can no longer start up promoting off stuff and hiding the money. Then bypass to court and wrestle it out. #2. flow again living house. Make the marriage artwork.
2016-11-26 00:06:37 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what state u live in.. here in NC u have to be seperated for a year at least before u can file.. secondly.. u two may think u've moved on.. it takes alot to file a divorce if u really loved the spouse in the first place enough to marry them.. yeah lets not forget its supposed to be a sacred commitment people make to each other when they're planning on spending their lives together...til death do u part. Its only been 5 months.. u never know maybe u two just needed a break and as for the others.. they could just "play" replacement but you NEVER can replace a TRUE spouse.. luck..
2006-10-02 19:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he doesn't have the money. these things cost money. and they are very time consuming and confusing as he!! if you do it on your own. most people hire a lawyer or a paralegal to help them with all of the paper work and filing. this all costs a lot of money. so, maybe you shouldn't wait for him to do it. look into hiring a paralegal for yourself and get the process started. you are only prolonging the inevitable. what if you meet someone that you might consider marrying? you will want your divorce to be finalized so you can move on with your life.
2006-10-02 19:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by ♥2323vsb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question should be: why hasn't you filed for divorce yet? i think both of you are still hoping to save this marriage. only a matter of who to take the first step.
2006-10-02 20:21:47 · answer #5 · answered by ltlnizi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels the same way you do. Dose he communicate with you?
You do need to think about the legal and financial ramifications.
If he runs up Credit Card Bills etc... And doesn't pay them, as long as you are still legally married you a responsible for any debts he in cures but does not pay.
2006-10-02 19:31:35 · answer #6 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, maybe is hard to him to got the reality, and he think that you should return in a future. Or he don't have time now to take it. I think the best thing is to talk to him, if you two end in good terms, and ask if you have to do the papers and he pay the fees.
2006-10-02 19:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by El que nada sabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids, money, assets? Maybe he figures he can get more out of the situation by forcing you to divorce him. Maybe he hasn't moved on. Maybe he just doesn't care if he's divorced or not. Or maybe he's using his existing marriage to keep himself unattached to someone new.
2006-10-02 19:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by Scott K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take charge and divorce him! If you honestly want to be free, take the initiative and set yourself free. If you are holding on to a hope that you two will reconcile then discuss the possibility with him, but don't just sit back and wait for him to do it.
Best Wishes!
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2006-10-02 19:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a Lawyer and file the papers yourself. The go out aand get laid! Trust me, you'll feel better in the morning.
2006-10-02 19:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by RhinoBoy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋