2006-10-02 19:25:27 · 25 answers · asked by MIra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Any form of abuse regardless of who is committing it, is inexcusable. If your husband is becoming abusive, get out before it gets worse. The longer you stay, the worse it will get. You need to make sure that you are keeping yourself safe before anything. If you are not safe (any form of abuse is not safe), than get out of that relationship now, instead of giving him permission to treat you and turn you into a victim.
2006-10-02 19:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by kittycat_cc14 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good Girl, you are seeing the signs early, get out now while you can, dont look back. Women who stay in an abusive marrage for any length of time run the real risk of being murdered. The abuse will only get worse believe me. While you are still strong in mind and body get out now because in a few more years time you wont have any self esteem left to get out...you will start to believe like millions of other women who have been abused that they deserved it. Dont wait until you have children, please do yourself a favour, find a man who wont abuse you....there are hundreds of available men out their who respect and love their women...find one of those. Whatever you do, do not feel sorry for this man...he will play every trick in the book to keep you in this relationship...he will make all sorts of promises that he will never do it again....Nope, it doesnt happen. Pack your bags and get out. Dont tell him you are going because he may hurt you if he is pre warned....make the move, then contact him via letter...do not let him know where you are living and also contact your local domestic violence shelter for support. Be prepared for him to get nasty....but he can get as nasty as he likes as long as you are not under the same roof as him and as long as you get yourself some support. It is a very hard move to make, but believe me if you dont leave him now you will regret it for the rest of your life.
Good luck....but more than that...you need good support and a good strong opinion of yourself.
2006-10-02 19:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right away!
I believe that the hardest part of abusive relationships is acknowledgment.
By the time a person truly realizes that they're being abused they are in too deep! (life threatening -too deep)
Don't tolerate it! Not even a little bit! Count your losses...yeah, it took you 2 years to realize this but let's just thank God that you are still here and that it didn't take you any longer than that...
You know, we really already know the answers to our questions...follow your first mind!
Safety first!
2006-10-02 20:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by californian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 19:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT NOW!!!!!!! No man has the right to abuse you in any way. Things will not get better. His abuse will only escalate. The time to get out is the first time he hits you. i don't know if you have kids or not but if you do they will grow up to fulfill the same behaviors, which is how the cycle of violence continues. If you don't have kids get out before you have them. Be brave. Think more of yourself than to believe that you deserve it. NO ONE deserves it. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-02 19:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by Stephani 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get out now before it gets too bad and you cant get out. Never fall for the I am sorry it won happen again line. Once an abuser always an abuser.
2006-10-02 19:27:54 · answer #6 · answered by Stephi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ASAP before anything gets worse. If the relationship is becomming abusive, why stay and see where its going to end up? Pack your bags and run.
Good luck.
2006-10-02 19:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
look, i was in an abusive relationship for 8 long years... if you can get out now, do it.. I've heard, i'm sorry baby, i'll never do it again...but he always did.. you are only hurting yourself if you stay..there is someone out there for you that won't hurt you.. i know i found the right one..i have been with him for 6 years now and he has never touched me... i know its hard but you have to want better for yourself... you can email me if you want... i am a good listener... GOOD LUCK TO YOU !!!!
2006-10-02 19:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is hitting you, it will just get worse.
Find a women shelter and get yourself to a safe place.
Most abusers can be real sweethearts when they aren't angry.
Get away before he does anymore dammage. You might love him, but that doesn't mean you have to be with him. Get yourself to a safe place
2006-10-02 20:30:24 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask the question... NOW is the time to leave.
Phone the Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90
2006-10-02 19:59:11 · answer #10 · answered by Tommy G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋