im gonna rite this in the best of my ability, no net speak. im an alcoholic, an wel got a little too drunk yesterday. now it seems my lifes coming to a close, i just have that feeling. wel ok now my problem. im in a long distance relationship, and im buddies with someone else on the net. lastnite i messed things up big time with my boyfriend, wile we were chatting. now hes upset with me and im scared he wont speak to me again. now this buddy of mine was trying to talk him into breaking up with me, and then he imed me saying hes fallen for me. hes also suicidal. and i dont want him to kill himself. i love him, but not as much as i luv my boyfriend. now im compltetly lost and i dont know what to do. im feeling very upset, and really am trying to quit drinking (im not ready for AA, i want to try kick this on my own). any advice?
2006-10-02 19:25:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
also how many violations does a pesron get before they get banned?
2006-10-02 19:28:09 · update #1
im gonna have to delete this question soon
2006-10-02 19:38:56 · update #2
ok, my bf talking 2me. i really screwed up
2006-10-03 03:24:52 · update #3
Honey,with everything you just wrote about your life ending soon,and you said your other friend is "suicidal also",you are more than ready for A.A. Sometimes you just have to throw in the proverbial towell,and say I can't do this on my own.I knew for years I was an alcoholic and didn't do anything about it.My big brother,was my best friend and he died at the age of 41,from alcohol.I still didn't stop.I went through several marriages(all abusive)and still didn't stop.Got a D.W.I.,and still didn't stop.Then one day I just got sick and tired of all the lying that us alcoholics do.And I knew if I tried it on my own,it would be like the other times.I'd stop for a month or 2,then I'd think,ok,well I must be able to stop when I want.And I'd go back to drinking,and being sick,and lying,and hating myself.I went to A.A. because I knew if I went in front of a bunch of people and said "I'm an alcoholic and I want to stop drinking" that I would be to proud to screw up,and start drinking again.That was 11/2yrs ago.The hardest part of quitting,was going through all the therapy to understand why I drank in the first place.You go through a rollercoaster ride of emotions,but in the long run,sobriety is better than any drink I ever had.Everyone is different,but for me,I went to meetings a few times a week for the first couple months.What got me to cut back on going to meetings,was there's always "old timers" that want to tell you what you HAVE to do.You don't have to do anything,except not drink.I got The Big Book,and if I feel I need to read some things I will,or if I feel I want a meeting I go.I'm very blessed,because my husband is very supportive and went to meetings with me if I wanted.He just supported anything I wanted to do.If your boyfriend drinks,it's going to be almost impossible for you to stop.My husband doesn't drink so it's made it really easy on me.I can be around people that drink now.But I don't usually want to,because when you see how you used to behave,it's embarrasing.But,Please save your own life,cause no one else can do it for you.And you are headed down a oneway road.You've already done the first,most important thing,you admitted you are an alcoholic.From one human to another,stay alive.I bet you are so fun to be around,and probably very very intellegent.We alcoholics are smart funny creative sensitive and loveable. Please think about it.Take care and God bless.
P.S.YOU CAN EMAIL ME IF YOU WANT.
2006-10-05 12:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by LEJIANE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all think that there is always a solution for a problem, even if it seems impossible, its not. so cheer a up a little, think about it all with calm, sober of course and well do what's better for YOU. Advice: there is nothing wrong with drinking, but there's a limit, we all know when it is, try a personal recovery with yourself, I mean instead of going out to clubs or parties or to drink, stay home, go out to like movies and stuff like that, ive done it and trust me it works. I drink, sometimes I drank too much and I have done things I wouldnt have sober but you can get over it, I mean whats worst than staying in the same thing, so move on, and this kid who is suicidal, i think its all drama, stay away from drama too... u dont need that... good luck!
2006-10-03 02:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by antoni_m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my advice is to quit the chatting, the guy in the chat room probably will not commit suicide. he probably just wants to get in your pants and then he will move on. You have somethikng now that I wish I had, a boyfriend. Your boyfriend on the other hand probably loves you and will forgive you if you quit the chatting and sounds as if your flirting too. Just pay more attention to your b/f and stay off the computer. oh and you might want to go to AA
2006-10-03 02:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by jumpinjackdw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're this bad off, I agree that you're not ready for AA. Get yourself through the door of the nearest mental health facility (or hospital or police station). Stop thinking in circles. Concentrate: concentrate on putting one foot ahead of the other and GO NOW.
2006-10-03 02:34:04 · answer #4 · answered by Casperia 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gayman84,
You need to seriously tell yourself to shut up. And go to an AA meeting, 90 meetings in 90 days. I totally believe you. Your story is so typical. You are about to lose even more than you have, and you still think that you can do it on your own.
You need:
1) AA meetings
2) Keep in touch with your friend
3) Tell yourself to shut the F up
4) Get your friend to go with you, if he doesn't go with you, you leave him where he is and go to those meetings, get a sponsor.
Stop being an idiot and go!
2006-10-03 04:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are in complete control of everything you do. Every thing that happens to you happens to you because of your very own bad(or good) choices. No one can help you but YOU. If you want to be free, you will lose them both and start over. If you choose not to, you will be miserable. If someone kills them self, it is NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY, as THEY are in charge of their very own bad choices as well.
2006-10-03 03:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by Alias400 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesnt matter if you are ready for AA or not> Get there as soon as possible, go into a detox
2006-10-03 12:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by st.uncumber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got 2 problems : your drinking and your relationships.
i say correct your drinking problem first. when your mind is clear, then you will be ready to confront yourself as to who you love more and want to spend your life with.
2006-10-03 03:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by Russ Bear 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
just remember what i said and what we talked about and it will be ok
much love
The Real Brandy~~
2006-10-03 03:33:26 · answer #9 · answered by brandy t 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AA. Trust me. . .EVERYTHING in life becomes clearer when you've sobered up!
2006-10-03 03:31:08 · answer #10 · answered by pocket68rocket 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋