I met my husband online almost 2 years ago. When he came to be with me I found out he was talking to girls still online. I constantly ask him about what his ex's look like and if I am better than them. I keep wanting LONG CURLY HAIR like the one's he favors. In bed I'm constantly, comparing myself to them sexually. I dont know if this problem is going to come between my marrage or not! I wonder often if he's sick of me asking him "am i better than them" but anyhow what should I do?
2006-10-02 19:14:01 · 11 answers · asked by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you should quit doing that..You are basically competing the past....he is with you now. there is no sense of bringing back what is happen before..You are just building insecurity in yourself.
Past is past..Enjoy the fact that you are together..There is nothing wrong talking to girls online..unless hes SERIOUS with them..
You can feel it..if he is cheating on you..Unless you dont have confident thinking he does not love you..You know him better than anyone else.. WOMANS INSTINCT.
2006-10-02 20:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of the problems you may be facing could be just the tip of the iceberg on what is really happening in your marriage. I dont mean to scare you but many problems when they either first show up or if they keep reoccurring could be just whats showing from a larger problem that either you or your spouse cannot even see. One of the only things you can do to help is to talk honestly and openly with each other in the marriage. If things become more serious more serious options need to be looked at as possibilities. I have a blog that has more information on some of what I've been writing about. If you feel like checking it out I would completly suggest it. Read here https://tr.im/NC1Na
Love is a choice that is made everyday when you wake up and every night when you go to sleep. Some days you may not feel the original feeling but love isnt a feeling or an emotion. Its an action a verb. Falling out of love may just mean you need to spice things up a little or that you were never in love in the first place. Don't just get out of a marriage just because you don't think you like the person anymore.
2016-07-19 01:12:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, if he still chats online with these women, that is cause for concern, especially since you want to have a family. Don't ask if you are better. YOU ARE. YOU are the wife, and you have what they don't. Drop something sweet on him. Dress up or down, depending on your mood, and knock his socks off with confidence. Say, "you know this is where it's at, " and mean it! You should be exactly who you are. That is why he married you.
2006-10-02 19:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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This is probably the most important part. With texting, you can stop and think about what you want to say to your ex at each step of the way. Instead of reacting emotionally, you can take your time, figure out the right thing to say (I’ll give you most of it), and be strategic with your ex without saying something that you’ll regret.
2016-04-22 13:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop asking him silly questions and concentrate on your relationship with him. Surely, if you keep acting all insecure and clingy, he'll wonder what he ever saw in you.
The worse thing you can do is to "try to be someone else", you'll have lost the gal he fell in love with. Then he won't see any point in staying with you anymore.
2006-10-02 19:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do the same thing and im not the one to give advice on this but we need to stop.Me and my husband argue when i ask him questions but the truth is i just want to know that i am better reguardless of what happened.i think its all about being secure and mabe we have to work on that within our self.... good luck ! ! !
2006-10-02 20:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stop asking. You can only be yourself and that is why he married you. In case you have no confidence, you can always improve yourself, find ways to grow as a person. Men see women a whole different way than we see ourselves. Thank God!
2006-10-02 19:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by Gyongyi K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a problem with you, and will ultimately annoy the hell out of your husband... however if it drives you to be a better lover, what a lucky guy... HA
Stop, why do you think he married you?
2006-10-02 20:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by bigcatbarber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a million girls out there and he married you because he realized you are the best. try watching porn together. Don't compare yourself to those girls though. We all know you are better.
2006-10-02 19:17:45 · answer #9 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why compare to an Ex? if you are comparing yourself to his ex, girl you need self esteem... if he don't like the way you look than. show him the door.
2006-10-02 19:18:18 · answer #10 · answered by pinballsuz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋