Is she right or me??answers to your questions?

Question

For those of you who answered my question i say ty...Even to those of you gold diggers that answered against me..As for the answers to some of your questions...I only had 1000 characters to work with and could not give all the details but my kids live with me 6 months out of the year so the few of you who said i do not pay enough can kiss my ***..I still pay 50% of all doctors bills above what i pay for ins..I still buy my kids school clothes for the most part. Anything they want as far as toys go falls mostly on me because the mom never felt the need for a fulltime job til we agreed to split up so she can't afford much in her line of work..I work my *** off on 2 jobs and still manage to be home for my kids six months out of the year. And for your info i did try to stay together for the kids. she walked out on me 4 times and i let her back in..the 5th time it was mutual..I don't ***** about taking care of my kids they are with me 50% of the time and i still pay all this for them.

Answer 1

Who ever had anything to say against you..I agree can kiss your ASSSS...because you sound like a DAMNN. Good father to me! I'd kick butt to have a dad like you my dad walked out on me 2 1/2 years ago to never hear from him again. I am married now and in need to be in doctors care. He has purpously taken me off his insurance. I hate him and dont feel sorry for any bad thing that happends to him. GOOD LUCK to you and keep up the good work. Maybe I"ll introduce you to my dad so you could give him dad advice!!

Answer 2

Hi there!
I followed up on your previous post beffore answering. I divorced the mother of my 2 children 9 years ago and I can totally understand what you are going through. I do have to say what you wrote does not include some key factors that may be why you got so many "ugly" responses. I live in California and even though WE HAD an agreement , she only wanted more than what she was entitled to. I paid in excess of $1050 a month not to mention carrying the medical , Dental, and %50 of the copays. I am not an executive that makes $200k a year . I am a construction worker who makes about $55k . That's bad enough because it was over half of my income even though I was actually there when I was supposed to "have" my kids, unlike their mother.
The only thing that got me through was the fact that it is NOT just about the money. It's ALL about the kids and what YOU have to offer them for life. If money is all you have then be mad. I say be bigger and better than that which you left and end up with the love and respect of your children. Hire a good lawyer, play by the rules and be the BEST D A M N DAD you can be. The bills will fall off , your time will increase and your kids will see their mother for what she is. Trade email if you like.

Good Luck to you.

Answer 3

I think you went into a lot of detail about the amount of support you gave your children....I wish you were the father of my children cause he did nothing for them. An explanation you have given here is not really necessary. You are angry with all the negative responses and rightly so, but you have to understand people will answer questions nastily because thats just the way they are. and probably some of the people who answered wouldnt have even hit puberty yet considering some of the stupid remarks some people made to your question.

More men should be like you. I am a single parent myself, and this woman is very lucky that you want so much to do with your children....she sounds like a very selfish b***** to me, but she got her just deserts didnt she? She lost out in the long run anyway and if she is as vinctictive as putting you into DSS, then you will probably find when your children are old enough they will want to live with you full time. She wasnt thinking of the kids when she put you into DSS, she was thinking about money..That 100 bucks you gave her she probably didnt spend on the kids because you were paying for the majority of their necessities anyway. You are well rid of her, but in her defence I must say its great that you both have joint custody.....a lot of women wouldnt allow that...but maybe shes doing it for purely selfish reasons, maybe, once again its a money thing because she has 6 months of not having to pay for them.

Your children are lucky to have you

Answer 4

I don't know what your question before was, but I say you are doing your duty.
My niece had 6 kids by an @ss hole and he don't pay child support half the time, he left before the last one was even born. He pays support for a while and then he quits his job and pleads poverty, she is a teachers helper and earns a wage, and she tries to give her kids all they need.
Keep up with what your obligations are.
If she wants child support from you, go to court and ask for child support for the 6 months that you have them, and ask to have her pay for the insurance while you have them..

Answer 5

You need to drop off your baggage that you harbor from your marriage. You villify her, while you play the victim.. That can't be good for your kids. They pay the price for your dysfunction. You need to forgive your ex for not being the right one for you, and forgive yourself for not being the right one for her. You should be proud that you are taking care of business, but don't think you deserve a medal or anything. In this day and age you will always make more money than a woman. Period. You have kids with her. You should be responsible for them financially. Don't make them pay the price because of your resentment for your ex. They may be too yound to understand, but they will remember, and it will change who they become. They will grow up and be dysfunctional themselves. They will either resent you or her, and perpetuate that in thier future marriages. Are you proud of yourself now? is that what you want for them? You should try to create a new relationship with your ex. Forgive all the wrongdoing. You each have your won perception of how things went down. You are both entitled to that. Neither one of you is right or wrong. You just have to move past it, and put those kids first. Even if you have to fake it for a while. Do not ever villify your ex to your kids that way you have here. You are not in charge of taking her inventory, and she is not of yours, either. She should do the same as you. You need to become amicable with her. For the kids' sake. Do not rob them of their sense of security and trust.

Answer 6

I read your previous question to understand this one and frankly I think you're doing a fine job. Don't let the negative comments from strangers bug u as most of us here don't know the full story. Cheers.

Answer 7

no she not right by the way you describe it.but you should be proud of your self that you are not one of deadbeat dads that dont do **** for there kids.