How do I tell my mom that I'm pregnant?

Question

I'm 21 and 5 months pregnant. I'm keeping the baby because it's too late to have an abortion. My family comes from a strict churchy family if you know what I mean. I scared that they will look down on me and disown me. I'm not married and the father of the baby are not even together. I told the father already but he doesn't care. What do I do?

Answer 1

Thank God it is too late to have an abortion, it is not the baby's fault that mommy isn't with daddy!

Mom, I am pregnant!!

Answer 2

Prepare for the worst, hope for the best. You know you have to tell your family sometime and you can't control their reaction. You just might be disowned, but at the same time your family can rally to your cause. You never know until you open up. In the end, keeping a secret like that will create a huge rift, so you have nothing to lose. If you're trying to find a way to soften the blow, consider several options. You can have a friend come along with you for moral support. You can go to psycological counciling and bring your mom so you have an objective 3rd party. You could write a letter to her letting her know that you have a secret that you want to share and explicitly express your concernes about her potential reaction, or you can just let her know the whole story in a letter. Parents generally want the best for their kids, so more than likely any disappointment is because they're sad for you, rather than mad at you. I would bet that regardless of their beliefs they will support you.

Answer 3

I've been there hun. First thing you gotta do, you're 21, you are an adult. Don't approach your parents as though you're ashamed of yourself. Tell them like you are happy and it's good news. Christian or not they should understand that we all make mistakes, and as Christians they should also understand that a baby is a wonderful gift from God and something to celebrate not morn. It is never good to be with the father just because you are pregnant if you ask me you are better off without him. I've been there, my ex left me when I was 5 months pg with my daughter and I was only 18. It hurts but if he's that kind of guy you are better off without him. There is no shame in being a single mother. I got with my husband when my daughter was almost two and now we are expecting a third child. Good things will happen for you. You may have made a mistake, but God will reward you for taking responsiblity for it and caring for this child and loving him or her. It can be hard, and you will struggle but it will be worth it. Just as I said, don't go to your parents with the attitude of you made a mistake because they may imbelish on that. Tell them you're happy and leave it at that. Good luck!

Answer 4

As you are fixing to find out in a few short months mothers love their children unconditionaly. Yes chances are your mother is going to be hurt and upset and chances are she is going to feel that she did something wrong as a parent for you to do this, be prepared for a lot of tears. At first she might not be able to talk to you just give her time and after the shock wears off she will be your mom. Sit down with her and first tell her that you love her and never want to do anything to hurt her but you are pregnant and going to have the baby in four months. Explain that you are keeping the child and you know that it is a big responsibility that you are prepared to deal with and that you hope that she will be their to support you emotionally and help you to become a good mom. Like I said she is going to be hurt so no matter if she gets mad and says get out when she calms down she will come around. You have already had five months to get ready and you are confused so she will be as well at first. At 21 you are an adult and I think they will deal with it better at 21 than if you were 16 going home and telling them. As far as the father goes just tell your mom you won't say you made a mistake because your baby is a life not a mistake but you made a bad choice as to whom to get involved with and that you will deal with him on a finacial basis for the child but you won't be together. No matter what you need to tell your mom soon. The longer you wait the harder it will be on you and her.

Answer 5

Keeping the baby simply because it's to late for an abortion is not a good reason for keeping the baby, dear. There is always the option of putting it up for adoption, many people would love to have a child to love and simply can't have one.

However if you want to keep the baby because you love it and WANT it, then I suggest that you approach your mom as an adult and tell her that she may not like what you are about to tell her, but you are having a baby and plan to keep it.

I am sure she will accept it (after the shock wears off). If she is still having a hard time accepting it, then after baby is here take it to her and put it in her arms and call her Grandma. A baby will melt even the hardest of hearts.

I know, as I'm a Grandma myself. My 14 month old granddaughter is the light of my life.

Good luck and God loves you.

Answer 6

I was in your exact situation, but I was even younger than you. You need to tell them then stay out of their way for a while so they can get over the initial shock. Their first reactions are probably going to be bad. You should probably expect "Well, you've ruined your life" type comments.

At the end of the day, they're your family and they love you. It's going to take some getting used to for them, but I'll bet they're there for you. I was very surprised at how supportive my family became. Even if they're still upset you don't have long until the baby will be here, and they'll fall in love with him/her.

Congratulations, and good luck!

Answer 7

I never understand churchy people who are unforgiving.

Tell her without further delay. She surely must know if she sees you because it has to be obvious by now. Tell her you don't want to be a disappointment to her, but you were in love and things just happened. Tell her you love her and hope she will stand by you during this time because the father turned out to be a disappointment and you had to break up.

Ask her to go to birthing classes with you. Good luck honey!!






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Answer 8

Just tell her, your 21 for gods sake not 15! You are an adult. Period. Parents are very forgiving.
BTW, my boyfriends girlfriend had a baby at 15. She hid the whole pregnacy from her parents, read books on how to give birth at home, went into the bathroom and came out in a half hour with a baby. Imagine their surprise!!!!! Don't do that to your mommy.

Answer 9

If the only reason you are going to keep your child is because you are to far along to have an abortion you should not be keeping the child at all. Put the baby up for adoption.
In regards to your parents, there's no good way to tell them, just do it.

Answer 10

I got pregnant at 18 with my daughter, and the father and I seperated when I was 5 months pregnant. I told my parents, and they took me under their wing and helped me get onto my feet again. It was scary to tell them, but it was the best thing to happen to me. I lived with my mom until I had my baby, and then moved out on my own, and went to college so I could get a good job and support my daughter on my own. It won't be as bad as you think, to tell them, but you just have to. You can't hide it forever, ask them for help, for their support, you'll be surprised on the outcome. Good Luck !

Answer 11

You call your mother and say: "Mom, I know that you are going to be extremely hurt and disappointed in me. I've made a terrible mistake. Now, I'm pregnant. My baby is due in Jan/Feb."

Regardless of what she says, you're having that baby. If they "disown" you, you're still having that baby.

You're going to break your parents' hearts. You can't expect them to welcome this news.

In time, they'll be encouraging to you -- you're their daughter. Be patient.

I now have a baby grandson that I adore. When I got the call, I listened, then told my daughter that I loved her and would love her baby. Then, I hung up and cried for days. My wife and I love our daughter. We also are churchy.