ok i love my girl no matter what, but she will only have sex with me on top. in two years i got her on top maybe three times. i dont complain one bit. i think she just feel silly or think i will think she is doing it wrong or something. she isnt shy or nothing, ive asked her to do different stuff. so what is it. i dont get mad when she wont try stuff.could it be that im more experienced than she is. she has only been with one other guy. should i just let it happen when it happens, or keep bringing stuff up. its not like i beg her while we are having sex i might ask 2 times to get in a different position.pretty much me on top or spooning. i love it when she got on top and i let her know that. i think she is just insecure on how she will look doing it, lets say doggy style, so ladies what is up with that cause i know she isnt the only one?
2006-10-02 18:15:12 · 8 answers · asked by preludesir007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She's probably shy and insecure. Just give her more time. Don't be pushy about it but remind her every so often how much you loved it when she was on top :) Praise her and make her feel so good about herself. Maybe she'll try things different if she feels more at ease. Goodluck :)
2006-10-02 18:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it could be that she worries about different positions, truth is, some of them r rather unbecoming especially if the girl is somewhat overweight. Or ur girl could be just plain shy. Try turning out all the lights before lovemaking, that should ease her mind about appearances. You seem to be patient with her, so once she tries different things with u and sees how good sex can be, she`ll learn to relax and enjoy. But after 2 yrs. she should be ready to experiment a little more. Maybe she should get some sex manuals to read, might help her understand variety is the spice of life and shes missing out on that by not being a willing partner.I commend u on ur patience, I hope u get ur rewards. At first, I was shy with my husband, but the longer I knew him the more confident I became and the more I wanted to please him too, but I promise it didn`t take 2 yrs. to reach that point. Good luck with helping her overcome her inhibitions.
2006-10-02 18:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by flamingo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you at pleasing her? Is this all about you? That is what sucks because so often it's all about the guy what about her, what way does she get the most pleasure? Ask her and tell her you want her to enjoy it too and you would like to try something different to see if she can climax that way.
Get a book that has a bunch of different positions and be like, "lets try that one tonight!" She won't turn you down.
Lastly, I have to get on my soapbox and let you know I don't condone premarital sex. What are doing? 2 years...its time to crap or get off the pot. Is she wife material or not? Life is too short.
With Love,
PP
2006-10-02 18:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by Ponderpink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she feels pressure from you. Maybe she feels like she might not measure up if you've had lots of other experience. Maybe because she's young, she hasn't been around long enough to gather life experience. I'm in my 40's. I know what I like. I love trying different things. I always ask for what I want, it's the quickest way to get it. I'm not one to throw out hints. I think real experience comes with age. Good luck to you both.
2006-10-02 18:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i myself love doggy style but some girls dont.. Just give her time she will come around!!
2006-10-02 18:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by cscollege07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her what you want.
personally, I love it when a man takes me by suprise.
maybe something happened in her past she is not telling you about, that warrents this behavior.
2006-10-02 18:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by trinityangelmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-02 18:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her drunk
2006-10-02 18:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by smitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋