hi this might me sound like a really bad person but im happily married yes happily but i have devolped a crush on his friend we talk all the time and i cant help but have a crush how do i get these thoughts out of my head? PLEASE HELP!!?
2006-10-02 18:10:18 · 26 answers · asked by aleym 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
so every one knows his friend as no clue i have a crush on him
2006-10-02 19:18:32 · update #1
There is no sin in carrying a crush for someone else. In fact it can be healthy. AS LONG AS YOU DON"T ACT ON IT.
It's just a healthy fantasy life. Keep your crush in the fantasy zone & you are NOT CHEATING.
There will be a lot less confusion, & misunderstanding if you keep your feelings to yourself. Don't share this with the object of your crush, & unless your relationship with your husband is ultra secure, don't share it with him either.
I hope you aren't too shocked by this but it is also perfectly normal to have the odd fantasy about your crush, or maybe even your favorite leading man, even while while doing it with your husband.
Don't be shocked or ashamed, because if he's normal, he's doing it with you too.
Just watch out who's name you are calling out at the pinacle moment, so no ones feelings are hurt & then everything will be OK.
The difference between that & cheating is that most of us are capable of telling fantasy from reality, & as long as we keep it that way, we can all stay healthy.
So happy fantasy, & good health to you.
2006-10-02 18:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a crush or feelings for someone else is just human nature and nothing to be ashamed of. Just because we get married doesn't mean that all our senses are turned off. It is what you do with these feelings that makes the different. Just enjoy his company and friendship and let yourself feel, just don't act upon it unless you want to ruin your relationship.
2006-10-02 18:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is just a crush,and it is normal,but YOU have to limit yourself it might goes into another way. Remember as what you said that YOU ARE HAPPILY MARRIED.
2006-10-02 18:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by ojecjosh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with thinking. What you do is what can cause the problem.
While having sex with your think about the other and dream while enjoying. Most gals think about another when having sex anyway.
Try to put him in a good friend spot and not a lover spot.
I have been in that dilemma and didn't like it either.
2006-10-02 18:18:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your crush is perfectly normal. If you can talk to your husband about your feelings. If you can't just distance yourself from the friend. Don't go around him anymore. That's the only way it's going to stop.
2006-10-02 18:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a way not to be around him. The reason you probably feel this way is because as you say you talk all the time. He is making you feel good because he is paying attention to you. He seems to be letting himself get carried away also or he wouldn't be talking to you so much. Somehow you are going to have to arrange it so when he calls you give the phone to your husband and if he comes over you send him to the room where your husband is. And if he comes into a room alone with you to talk then you yourself walk to where your husband is and sit next to him like glue !!! Giving him the message :) hope this helps.
2006-10-02 18:21:05 · answer #6 · answered by sb 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you care about your marriage you best put some space between you and you husband's friend. You need to think about what you're doing and realize that it's unfair to your husband. Stop talking so much with your husband's friend... and only spend time with him when your husband is there.
2006-10-02 18:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in case you do not prefer to wreck your marriage and your friendship then provide up flirting consisting of your friends husband and consider him as off limits. The time he tried to kiss you you might have enable him be attentive to in no doubtful words to back down. shop up the nonsense and you will finally end up on my own, and divorced devoid of chum. recover from the weigh down--it is not as significant as you're making it out to be.
2016-10-01 21:17:44 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that you are married, and your husbands friend knows that you are married, and yes he knows it not right to keep this crush thing going! Sounds like to me he's just waiting for that right moment to take it another level. He knows what he is doing by all the talking. THINK ABOUT YOUR HUSBANDS FEELINGS, YOU MARRIED HIM, HE IS YOUR TRUE FRIEND, TALK TO HIM INSTEAD OF THAT " SO CALLED FRIEND OF HIS."
2006-10-02 18:32:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, a friend of mine is happily married, and consistently keeps up 3 crushes at a time outside of her marriage. It is simply a joke for her, though, something to keep her amused. As long as you don't plan on acting on it--and as long as you don't, you know, picture him during...--don't feel too badly.
2006-10-02 18:13:10 · answer #10 · answered by Esma 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋