As you know i'm pregnant, well my partner keeps choosing weed over me i still love him but i hate it HELP ME?

Answer 1

Tell him the second hand smoke is going to damage the baby, if he says prove it, then he isn't worth the babies health over.

Answer 2

Shouldn't be a hard choice at all. A safe and nurturing environment over a weed smoker! HE has made his choice now make YOURS! What is best for the BABY and your own peace of mind is what is in order here. LOVE is not all encompassing when you have another life to consider. What you and the baby might endure due to him choosing WEED over YOU and his own "fatherhood" is more than likely a negative life style.

Fatherhood and/or Parenthood, with a dope smoker or any addictive person isn't what is on their minds!

Make the decision to give yourself and the baby the most positive life that you can.

Rather you still Love him or not is irrelevant! That is why we have "visitation" "divorce" and single parent households! In order to give our children and our own lives a better situation.

It is not a matter of LOVE for HIM, it is a matter of LOVE for yourself and the life that you carry within you!

Answer 3

I went down that road twice. If he is picking the weed over you now what do you think is going to happen when the baby is here? Do you really think that it will change? If he can't get it together now while you are pregnant it isn't going to happen for a very long time. I am sorry to say that but he is obviously very immature. To the point that I don't think he will be able to take care of someone else besides himself. Weed is not the answer to life. Trust me, it may not be today or tomorrow, or even five years down the road, but you will get to the point where you will not tolerate it anymore. I just hope it will be sooner than later.

Answer 4

How much chain do ya want with that tractor? Be smarter run faster! This is coming from a guy that use to abuse drugs. He will always hurt you til he gives it up. What happens when the baby comes and he needs some and the baby needs food? You should be the most important thing to him until the baby comes. What do you think it will be when the baby comes?
weed you baby? weed baby you? you baby weed?

Answer 5

you have to give him an altamatum either the weed goes or you do and stick to that do not let you kids grow up in that stuff pls i had to many friends who grew up with that stuff around them and they have no desire to make nething of themselves at all. So please if you have to leave for your child sakes. He obvisouly does not love you back bc if he did he would
quite that stuff for you and his child so obsvously he does not love your child either. So tell him either you and you baby leaves or the weed does.
if go do take my advice and he picks the weed do as you say and leave. i know it will be hard and scary if you choose to leave but in the long run it will be a much healthier enviorment for your child and you and you will be able to meet someone who will apreciate and love you and respects you unlike the guy that you have now.
AND ONCE CALL FROM DSS OR THE COPS SAY BYE BYE TO YOUR BABY FOR GOOD. after they take a baby from a drug user or even if you are not it will be forever b4 you can get ur baby back and sometimes you may never get your baby back.

Answer 6

Some not all women do this a lot .Its wrong and you need to stop it before you F4ck up the relationship . You Knew what he was into before you got together and got pregnant ?As long as he isnt blowing all your cash or drug dealing and he wants to partake in some relaxtion let him . Dont let him smoke in front of you while your preggo but do let him gets some stress taken care of.

Men hate it when you say he chose this over me . No it is you forcing him to make choice between his self respect and you controlling him . The weed is just the tip of the iceberg .

HE IS ALREADY SAYING WHAT THE F7CK IS SHE GOING TO TAKE AWAY OR CONTROL ME NOW WITH . WHAT OTHER CHOOSE THIS OVER ME DECISIONS ARE YOU GOING TO PUT ME THRU .IF YOU LOVE HIM DONT PUT HIM IN THAT SITUATION BECAUSE YOU MIGHT WIN THIS ROUND BUT EVENTUALY HE WILL BAIL ON YOU .!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

My husband is exactly the same, we are separated now, he wants to get back together but he still has the weed and it has come before me so many times. He keeps saying he'll give it up but never does, and if he goes without it he's hell to live with. Sorry I can't help I hope someone else has a better idea, mine was to separate.

Answer 8

Well, if you come in second to weed...I think you need to find someone that rates you as number one. My ex wanted weed, and that is why he is my ex. He finally gave it up after years of smoking, but it was too late. Take care of that baby!

Answer 9

I think it is time to decide who you love the most - your baby or your partner. I understand that you love him but you need to look at the harm you may be doing to your child by living in this environment and make one of the hardest decisions - leave him or risk a child born with possible health complications. I think you should speak to a health professional to find out exactly what harm this is doing.

Answer 10

first of all let me tell you CONGRATULATIONS on having a baby. second of all you need to leave him. he can give second hand smoke to you and the baby and it worst then first hand. third i know you love him but the question here is does he love you enough and the baby to leave that **** in the past. really girl you don't need that or the baby need that. if you stay with him and he never change then what he going to teach his baby. how to smoke. so either you tell him to grow up because he really need some growing up to do or just hit the road. but only you can do that and good luck to you and i hope you have a healthy baby.