my ex is in a situation that he is just severly depresed.his grandma passed away.and ever since he is not happy.he seems to find confort with me.a couple of days ago he said he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.but i just dont feel like that about him.i actually feel sorry for him.is it that we are getting close again and i dont noticed?he said he loved me and i said ditto.and i feel like if im in the corner and cant find my way around.i hate to se him like that.i do what i can for him to smile.i hate that he came to me for confort. i never looked for him he came to my door and now he just want to be with me.he tried to kiss me and i stoped him.i think he is falling for me again.but why, he cheated and now after a couple of years he comes back i dont know what to think about this.anyone have any advice?what do you think?
2006-10-02 17:59:50 · 15 answers · asked by super girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont think that it will make him feel happy if he found out that you are not inlove with him...are you not? i am actually thinking that you afraid to accept the fact that you still love him but you are afraid bec he might cheat again. well you still love the person then i believe you have to take the risk. falling inlove doesnt assure that you will have a happy ending., its like enjoying the ride. we all have to take the risk.
2006-10-02 19:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from what u said, i would say that u still care about this guy a lot and maybe don't even realize it. Cause you said that u hate to see him like that. it doesn't sound to me like u lied when u said u loved him too. but then again only u will know that. ur probably just not IN love with him anymore.
Just be careful because although he's going through a tough time right now, he can also be using that to his advantage to get back with u and it's quite possible that you will get hurt again. So don't be too vulnerable.
2006-10-03 01:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by curiousgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all tell him how you feel. dont make him think you have a thing for him. tell him that you dont want nothing serious. only to be friends. the only thing you can do is to be a friend to him since his grandmother died. so just make it clear before anything else serious happen. so he wont get hurt more. good luck
2006-10-03 01:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Love is misused and abused too much these days. Everyone wants to say it or hear it, but will not take the time to actually experience it.
2006-10-03 01:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU DONT FEEL THE SAME ABOUT THIS GUY THEN YOU
NEED TO BE HONEST WITH HIM. AND LET HIM KNOW WHAT
REALLY IS THE DEAL. IM SORRY FOR HIS LOSS. BUT YOU
STRINGING HIM ALONG IS NOT GOOD FOR ANY ONE. YOU
MAY JUST NEED TO LEAVE HIM ALONG. HE MAY NEED YOU
AS A FRIEND AND THAT FIND. BUT IF YOU REALLY DONT WANT ANY THING MORE THEN TELL HIM.
2006-10-03 01:06:15 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, I think he would benefit from a little counseling since he is having trouble coping with the death of a loved one... but that aside, he seems remorseful for having lost someone that he considers special in his life, that he can talk to and helps him feel better... maybe you should think about that and see if you can talk to him about making things work this time.....
2006-10-03 01:04:28 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whoa now...
ok. i wouldn't tell someone i loved them just to appease them. 'love' is a strong word to me, anyway... perhaps tell him that you will support him in this troubled time, but it is only as a concerned friend...nothing romantic will occur again due to the past. and leave it at that.
best of luck to ye.
2006-10-03 01:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by j-man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't wont him to use you just to get his comfort back and than when he feels alright he could go and cheat on you again...try to be more carefull this time.
2006-10-03 01:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by happydial 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No NO NO, In this case LOVE is the worst four letter word there is.
2006-10-03 01:10:15 · answer #9 · answered by lifhapnz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no...that wouldn't be fair to you or him.....would you want someone to tell you that because they felt sorry for you? You will be miserable in the big lie!
2006-10-03 01:06:14 · answer #10 · answered by melanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋