while he is living with his mom ( I am the step mom ) and the mom is joining in on the bashing rather than correcting it ( things said are like "I don't like dad any more.", all because dad refuses to buy the kid everything he wants, because he chose to live with his mom, should I tell my husband? Or would it be to hurtful and cruel to say something and just keep my mouth shut?
2006-10-02 17:36:10 · 10 answers · asked by cbr♥fox 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him by all means, but just because you might love your husband it does not mean there isnt a side of him that he has shown to his son that you haven't seen. While he was going through his divorce with his first wife his son probably resented him for the way he behaved but probably also resented his mother too. They probably both complained about the other to him and he would have been sick of being stuck in the middle of their problem. Your husbands ex-wife shouldn't be encouraging him, she is a bitter ***** and your husband should spent quality time with your son rather than buying him whatever he wants. Eventually your son (stepson) will come around and not be so bastardish.
2006-10-02 17:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him but chances are he is going to turn it around that you are just trying to start problems and don't like his ex. My step kids mouth their father all the time and only call or come to visit when they want something or they are mad at their mom, I use to tell him what was said and he got mad at me so I shut up and then this summer let him deal with them and he found it all out for himself. The kid is playing both parents which is common with kids of divorce, he knows if he says dad is a jerk mom will be happy and he is in good with her and gets what he wants from her and chances are when alone with hiis dad he says the same about her.
2006-10-02 18:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
examine his parenting plan. there may well be something in there that announces undesirable mouthing the different discern in front of the youngsters isn't allowed. shop each thing with the youngsters helpful. do not sink to her point and undesirable mouth her (i'm particular you do not). rfile, rfile, rfile each thing detrimental she says or emails. Print out those emails and save them. remember that she may well be doing an identical so do not respond in a detrimental way. Your husband can ask her to renounce speaking badly. no be counted what, be attentive to that as quickly as the youngsters get slightly older, they're going to make certain which you the two love them dearly and mommy has been mendacity to them the whole time. stable luck!
2016-10-01 21:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the son is digging his own grave and just stay out of it. I think that the mom and son will try to turn it on you if you say anything, just let them blab until your husband finds out, and trust me he will.
2006-10-02 17:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by stacy196922 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say anything. Let him catch his son bad mouthing him. Sooner or later he will, the kid isn't that smart.
2006-10-02 17:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say anything. It will just hurt your husband unnecessarily. In the meantime the boy will grow up!!!! Haven't we all been the rebellious teenager????
2006-10-03 00:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does the son want?
2006-10-02 17:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by Mattman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup the kid is playing the parents against each other to get his way
2006-10-02 17:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by gry w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first answerer, star, is totally right, sometimes you have to stand up and be heard.
2006-10-02 17:40:09 · answer #9 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
SOMETIMEs you just need to speak out.
2006-10-02 17:38:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋