A friend of my family asked me to come over to her house for dinner next weekend. She specifically said we would have a fancy dinner and that she would be in a dress and pantyhose and that I should be dressed accordingly. She knows I have always had an attraction to pantyhose (she caught me once witha pair when I was young), so I don't think it's a coincidence. And, she has never asked me to have dinner with her alone. I am in my twenties and she is much older. I recently started seeing someone and though we are not officially bf/gf I think this would be a problem. But, if I am wrong and I said no to dinner because I thought she was trying to seduce me, I might be wrong and then feel stupid....plus, I am a little turned on by the whole thing. Need some advice.
2006-10-02 17:35:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the only way to know for sure is to go to the dinner, just keep quiet and deal with whatever happens as you want; otherwise you will always wonder: what if?
2006-10-02 17:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a matter of how you feel about it or can handle this situation. You might try asking her casually and see what she says, but what happens if in her mind this is more serious for her? Do you want to keep her as a friend? What if her feelings get hurt. I would assume it is just a dinner, and do as you feel if the situation comes up. You could tell her that this a one time thing or just two friends sharing, and no promises, but then you might like it and want to try it again later.
I don't think I am being very helpful, but I can say, "You Lucky Fool"!! I am jealous! Good Luck!!
2006-10-02 17:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are being paranoid. I think that the person you are currently dating would appreciate the fact that you are taking the time to think about the situation before you jump into it. I would talk to the person you are dating to get her opinion on it. The conversation would probably lead into where the two of you stand relationship wise goes. If you both decide you are not exclusive then go for it, if you are exclusive then tell your family friend your situation. That way you won't be the one that will feel stupid in this scenario. Also, if you do become exclusive then tell your girlfriend that this scenario is a turn on, who knows she just might play it out for you. Good luck.
2006-10-02 17:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by Charissa D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you to decide what you're going to do with this whole thing, and which girl it's going to be, but she is definitely trying to seduce you by the sound of it! Why else would she tell you what she's going to be wearing? Also the fact that she invited just you over to her house for the first time for dinner speaks volumes. Let's face it, you have two girls interested in you...it's up to you to decide who is best for you.
2006-10-02 17:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by jennabeanski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yo.. id say shes really keen or playing a prank. Personally if i was interested would go. If i was seeing some one because your not technically with the person as such. (that your "seeing") So if you go an its horrible. then its an expierence if you dont go you never know what could have happened. You dont have to tell the girl your seeing... withholding information is not lieing and your not cheating so go have fun while your young
2006-10-02 17:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by xxhordoxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok if your sure that you and this girl arents offically bf and gf then dont worry about it. Even just to confirm something ask this girl if its cool for you to go on a date with someone. Dont give her more detail then that. Then go life is wayyyyyyyyy to short. If your single why not? And if she specificed the panyhose thing then its definatly seduction.
2006-10-02 17:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by syaqub982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would she want you to wear a dress and some Pantyhose?
2006-10-02 17:40:07 · answer #7 · answered by RiverRat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like the person your with take her with you so there won't be anything you don't want to happen.If you do want something to happen be honest with the other girl when she asked where your going or your plans for that night.Most important don't lie and follow your heart.
2006-10-02 17:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by alexff08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"i could be happy to hold out, yet no longer something extreme, ok?" communicate relating to the frustrations of being right this moment, like no longer having a girl chum, etc. basically like the type you found out he's gay, possibly. same concept.
2016-10-18 09:43:28 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you and this other girl arent official you should def chek out this older chick. i dunno. im 15female and i guess you wouldnt think i wouldhave that opinion but who knows what could happen and you and the younger gal arent even official and you dont have to bone her just cause she made you dinner. and even if you do shes older, and i heard older women really know what theyre doing...so maybe you learn something from her and take it to the other girl..i dunno this is getting weird. bottom line i think you should go cause youre not hurting anyone but urself cause even if you try ur always gonna wonder what could have happened.
2006-10-02 17:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋