Am i wrong or is she????

Question

Me and my ex have been seperated for about 6 years now. When we seperated we had two kids and worked out an agreement for child support without involving DSS..I offered her 100 buxs a week child support,Medical ins for the kids(70 buxs aweek),Dental ins 8 buxs aweek,,paid her cellphone and car ins for 3 years,gave her the car,paid for a swimming pool membership for her and the kids,Have given her money in adition to that for various other bills. Not to mention gave her the money for the downpayment on the house she bought when we broke up. I put 10 buxs a week into each of my kids savings account not to mention the things i buy them when they are with me.After three years of this i asked if i could claim one of my kids on taxes..She stated that i did not do enough to deserve claiming one of the kids.I told her to turn me into DSS which she did and she lost 2000 buxs a year in my help. She only pays 100 buxs a month for child care through DSS..I feel i did more than enough..How bout you

Answer 1

You are a damn good man for stepping up to the plate and providing for your family. This is what men should be doing because in the end it is the children who ultimately suffer. she was greedy she should have let you claim at least one since you were the main support of income her loss, make sure you keep all recipts for anything you purchase for them and keep up with your own records.

Answer 2

If you can not prove that you paid over 50% of the cost of
the child you can not claim them as a dependent. this includes what DSS pays and what your wife spends combined. You have to exceed it.
If she lets you claim the kids then she is frauding DSS for the assistance she is getting.

You state that you have been separated for 6 years but for the last three you are only paying what DSS tells you to pay.

Why are you not divorced? Why did you do all this wonderful stuff for her?
I think there is some scamming going on here. Between you , her , DSS, IRS ect.

I don't think your as wonderful as your letter claims and you and your wife are very much still involved.

Answer 3

What is DSS? If youre still separated for these past 6 years and obviously there's much animosity, you might try filing for a divorce.
Seems as long as youre married you are in control of much of the financial matters at hand.
Seems like youve got it all figured out and youre still bitter. Whether youve done more than enough is relative to each individual income and expense report admitted in court.
You havent stated as such here.

Answer 4

she is right ...... first of all you should be giving her about 250 every two weeks and any other monies you give her is your prerogative. The kids live under her roof and she pays taxes of their food,clothes , toys , water etc...medical and dental are things a parent also provides and in this case you dont have to do it if your going to be crying over it. but the day god forbid , any emergency might come around would you rather pay 70 "bux" a week or half of any surgeries , hospital stays which could add up to thousands!..I didn't think so. she is now living the life as a single mom and that alone money could not pay for.

Answer 5

Wow! I wish me ex will do the same for me. My ex and I were in lost of disagreements about child support,one because i was angry at him and two i wanted more, after all the drama an as a single mom now i can totally tell you that she feels that it's not enough because always the mom is the one with all the responsibilities for he kids after a separation,yes you have your weekends with them but if she has so much resentments for whatever happened between the two of you, whatever you give as far as money for your kids, she will always feel that it's not enough.Honestly I think she wants to make you feel bad,but as a responsible father you are doing more that enough.

Answer 6

Why are you complaining about taking care of your kids??? You should have just stayed in the marriage until they were adults instead of all of this wining you are doing. I don't care if it costs you a million "buxs" per month, take care of your kids. Your ex was your mommie, maid, launderer, cook, wife, mother, hard worker, blah, blah, blah, ! You should reimburse her for all the crap she put up with. AND you should pay dearly for having your kids grow up without a dad. So there! HA! Why is everyone saying you are a good man??? Where are you to your kids?? You have it easy.

Answer 7

Stop counting the money that you spend on your kids, and just enjoy this moment when they are small, they need a mom and a dad who don't fight over what they spend on them. Just give them the best you can and a little more and thank you wife for take care of them, because if she is the one live with them, she is the one doing the hard work.

Answer 8

I think your a good man for doing this. I'm sure you didn't because of the kids but you did it any way. you are right to want to claim one of the kids. and that was smart to get DDS involved i'm a woman and i think the state is to hard on fathers especially the ones who care because i'm sure your doing the best you can and it is a lot.

Answer 9

WOW DUDE!!!!! sounds like your father of the year..... you and mom sure just did a great job of taking care of the family....the kids have a broken home no father, cause he thinks being a father means he pays.....and mom just wants more money and to hold the kids as ransom pawns.....the simple fact is you and mom should be doing what ever it takes to raise those kids the best ways possible and that means if you can't fake being civil to each other for there sake then hate each other when your kids are grown......you jacked up there life's enough by breaking up you owe it to them to not go to war over money....raise them together for GODS sake you made them together didn't you?????

PS someone said she thinks your doing the best you can. she is lucky your not the father of her kids cause she would be thinking different wouldn't she? a father would never thing tax's over raising his kids. and so what I don't care who broke up the marriage and neither do your kids they only know they don't have daddy home with them when they wake up from a bad dream.....Oh yea that's right they are living it aren't they....

Answer 10

you did do a lot more than many fathers would do. don't feel guilty. she's a b. continue to take care of your kids. don't give her any extra money but any extra thing you can do for the kids financially do it. keep receipts. you will be blessed in the long run your kids will not forget that you are a good daddy.