The 5 year anniversary of his death in coming up soon and I would love to do something special for my friend. I know the sorrow and pain have left a hole deep in her heart.....that will be with her forever. Nothing I say or do can change that but I want her to know that I share in her emptiness. I make jewelry and thought about creating a bracelet that offered a sentiment of some kind but I'm having a hard time coming up with an idea. She isn't really a jewelry person either. Thoughts??
2006-10-02 17:17:00 · 12 answers · asked by allheart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you could order a memorial candle for her. i used one made of wax during our wedding ceremony for my dad that said
in loving memory of.... ....who is forever in out hearts. lighting it and saying a prayer was the first thing we did when i got to the alter.
i light it every holiday or otherwise special occassion, or simply anytime i want to talk to him and feel his presence near me. i've toasted a shot to him, said prayers, talk to him...i don't know, it just works for me and really seems to help.
since then i have found a new candle--called a "memory light" ....made by
http://www.angelfire.com/wi3/memorylights/Style.html
they are so beautiful and i order one for everyone close to me who loses someone special. it's just a tad bit more expensive, but comes in different styles and sizes. it is made of glass, and holds whatever color oil you want (oil comes with it) and you can select whatever type of etched picture or symbol you want on it, and whatever words you want enscribed on it is free. whenever you light it, the all etching glows through and it is so pretty.
as soon as my wax candle runs out i plan on getting one of those for myself, but anyone i have ever got one for absoluelty cherishes it, and they always get many compliments on it. there really is no comparison between the two, so you asked and that is my suggestion.
the glass really is beautiful and worth checking out--even if just to keep in mind next time for a funeral--i try my best to rush order and give that instead of flowers.
but even if you do nothing but let her know you are thinking of her on that day, i'm sure she will be very touched, and also grateful that you have not forgotten her son.
or
perhaps you could plant a tree in his honor.
a lot of places allow you to dedicate a spot, like on a bench at the beach or a long a trail...i've even seen them at the zoo. a little plate is made up with their name on it in memory of.
i know some people adopt a portion of the highway or a road, and it is named after them?
whatever you decide, i wish you the best of luck, and she's very lucky to have such a caring friend.
2006-10-02 17:50:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jewelery is an idea, but it seems a bit impersonal. How about creating a scrapbook or a collage of pictures and things that will remind her of the happy memories. Or you could make a quilt with different quilt squares representing a year in her son's life. Or you could donate money to a school he attended in his name and have them purchase a plaque in his memory. I commend you for caring so much and being such a wonderful friend. Whatever you do, your friend will be happy that you have not forgotten her son. Good luck to both of you.
2006-10-02 17:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by wannaknow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your best friend a Christian? Share the gospel with her if you're a Christian and she's not; or if you're not, why don't you give Christianity a look into.... you will find that God, through Jesus Christ our Savior, will comfort us more in our troubles than any secular thing or object can. If she's already a Christian, why don't you give her some special spiritual teaching books, such as by Joyce Meyer or some other inspirational Christian leader... such reading will be great therapy to her.
2006-10-02 17:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by Angelwings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might want to bypass to penitentiary.. once you get in the back of the wheel and make that form of a mistake, then its a extreme fee to pay.. How do you imagine the guy that died how do you imagine his kin would sense? human beings do not pay interest at the same time as there utilizing for the most section, they only get contained in the automobile and stress loud song or inspite of... possibly this would make this guy straighten up and be a better suited man or woman for it.. yet who's conscious.. a automobile is style of a bullet at the same time as its in a smash..
2016-11-25 23:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way!
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all!
By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
2006-10-02 17:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about making her a keychain? Even though she isnt really a jewelry person she may wear the bracelet because you made it for her and its a memorial of her son. Even if she doesnt wear it she will still cherish it!
2006-10-02 17:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 1 yr old died many years ago, and I wouldn't want to have someone to remind me of that. Let time just go on, if she just mentions something- just let her talk.
My ex is going through "a situation" where the "abnormal" is normal! Just go with the flow!
2006-10-02 17:27:28 · answer #7 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her a keepsake item,talk to her about the good times she had with her son,and buy her some candy.
2006-10-02 17:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her flowers
put her son's name engraved on a pieice of jeewelry
2006-10-02 17:20:20 · answer #9 · answered by nora7142@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not order some flowers for his gravesite?
2006-10-02 17:19:43 · answer #10 · answered by suninmyskies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋