im in need of some serious advice. i have been with my girlfriend for over a year and a half now and we have seemed to enter a fork in the road. shes a senior in high school and im 2 years older than her and falling into a job that im making some serious money at. we have had a serious communication break down due to both of us being busy. i see her once a week and talk to her on the phone for maybe 2 or 3 minutes the days i dont see her. honestly im not satisfied with this and have let it be know but she doesnt seem to show the same concerns that i do and i feel this is a major problem. i do care about her and love her deeply which makes this that much harder. another thing is shes going to school in la next fall and im settled in boston in a new apartment and with a good job so i really dont know what to do. any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciatted.
2006-10-02 16:53:12 · 6 answers · asked by swingxbassx66 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know it's sad but you have probably grown apart and she just doesn't know what to say to you, which means she does not mean to hurt you. I dated the same boy all four years of high school. I was a yr younger so he waited for me and then the weekend that I graduated, we left town and started at the same college. By that time I had already started detaching from him but it was just too difficult to own up to. We lasted two semesters then he wanted to go on to another college and I stayed back. Funny thing, a couple of months ago we ran into eachother in a shop and decided to stop for coffee and talk. Although he was having a hard time with a divorce, we could agree that everything happens for a reason. We all grow and grow apart... it's just part of the process. Good luck to you.
2006-10-02 17:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the communication thing sounds just like what my bf and i are doing now. I wouldn't fret that too much though. It's what makes that one day you all see each other during the week that more special. You have the remember, it's not like you two don't want to see each other. You really can't b/c you are both busy working on your goals trying make a living - nothing wrong with that.
What I would mull over is the fact that she is moving so far away? Do you both want to do a long distance relationship? If you can't handle seeing each other only once a week then maybe her being in l.a. and you in boston won't work out. That is your big issue you both need to decide. Once you decide that then everything else will fall into place.
2006-10-02 23:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok look you really love her so you dont wanna let her go but then again you cant be selffish you have to look at it from her point of veiw to what if shes not talkin to you or seeing as much as you would like for a reason did you ever wonder if she likes someone more tell her how you feel and see how she reacts if shes going to LA and your stayin in Boston then maybe you should break it off cause you dont wanna be to far away from eachother and make it more harder on both of you so tell her how you feel and see where it goes from there
2006-10-03 00:06:21 · answer #3 · answered by *t. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to stay in Boston in your new apartment and good job, let her go to LA, and move on with your lives. You are too young to settle down or make a lifelong committment, and it doesn't sound like you have much of a relationship anyway.
2006-10-03 00:01:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her on the day you see her and ask her if she's willing to make it work and continue. ask her if she wants to keep the relationship going while shes in la so then you know how far to keep your hopes up and knows what is going to happen. Straight up talk to her and dont beat around the bush since it will only make things worse. Hopefully, she'll answer you truthfully. Good luck! Hope I helped!
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2006-10-02 23:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Pyar Ki Pari♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,have you thought about marriage?i know she is going to school in la but it sounds like its not going to work if she isnt going to stay around you. so if she cant make a change 4 u then pick up and move on u cant stop your life to wait on someone who isnt as serious about you as you r them. rember she IS younger. good luck. .
2006-10-03 00:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by peanut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋