and you spouce left you alone to have this done to go have a cig. i was so upset i told him that he said why
2006-10-02 16:52:33 · 10 answers · asked by rradboys 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd of told him he better hope that one shot kills me because if I lived, I'd burn his *** to ashes with his own lighter.
2006-10-02 17:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not excusing his behavior but as someone who works in the pain management field, I see many spouses come up with a sudden excuse when it comes time for a trigger point injection. If you're not familiar with the procedure and have a strong stomach, it can be a really intimidating procedure for someone to watch... especially on someone they care about. Even people who say they're not afraid of needles suddenly get queasy when they see the needle used in a trigger point.
I agree that his manner in handling the situation wasn't the best but if he did leave due to being uncomfortable, he may be embarrassed. Try talking to him about it in more calm moment and let him know that you really needed him to be there for you during the procedure. Give him a chance to explain without sounding like you've already condemned him.
If he can't give you a good reason, you might want to take a hard look at your relationship. has he ever been there for you when things get rough?
2006-10-02 17:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do I ever understand where you are coming from. Your worry probably was that something could happen to you and you'd be all alone. You also would have liked some support from him as well. I was in the same boat when I had surgery. He stayed about 10 minutes then took off for work using the excuse that he couldn't just sit around with nothing to do. The nurses had to call him at work to get him to pick me up. I was embarrassed and felt like he could have cared less. HOWEVER, after a day of not speaking we cleared the air. He cannot handle seeing a loved one going in for surgery, or hurt physically. It has taken years, but he has finally learned how to cope and he is now there when I need him. Have patience, talk to him, and Good Luck.
2006-10-02 17:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by HolidayGurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmmm pull out my .45 and blast a hole in the person about to inject somthing in my noggin'. Then tell my spouse that he should quit smoking and be more sensitive to my needs. Then cut him/her off for a few weeks. Make them suffer for a while.
2006-10-02 16:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by asbratcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, I can handle blood, esp mine, but when it comes to my husband, I feel like fainting right NOW, I think the people you care about the most, you can't stand to see them in pain, or maybe it is a loss of control. Either way, I wish I could just put a band-aide on my poor husband, what is going to happen when he REALLY needs me one day?
2006-10-02 17:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by allisonmarieee(: 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if he was waiting around for a long time and couldnt be of much help then i understand both points of view. You know how it is waiting in the hospital...cut him some slack. None of it means he doesnt love you any less...
2006-10-02 16:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe that was just an excuse because he couldnt handle the site of you getting that injection? I do understand how you felt though.
2006-10-02 16:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be really mad. It was like he said that a cigarette was more important than being there for you.
2006-10-02 16:55:14 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be to angry until you understand how he felt when he went to have a cigarette. i dont think i would leave my wife, but if i thought my reaction was about to make it worse i dont know what i would do.
2006-10-02 16:54:53 · answer #9 · answered by Aaron S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was his way of dealing with it and alot of men faint at needles
2006-10-02 17:09:45 · answer #10 · answered by terri e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋