it seems to me that women believe that in the beginning of a relationship, the can screw a mans brains out but once the I LOVE U's are said then the sex can stop, cuz as women think, "if u love me then sex should not matter", then when a man has had enough of the mind games and either screws around or leaves then its all his fault, and she did nothing wrong. opinions pls male and female
2006-10-02 16:28:59 · 21 answers · asked by keithy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i do the romantic things, flowers, candy back rubs, calling on the phone and i have not lost any of my interest sexually in her
2006-10-02 16:35:47 · update #1
I think it's that the man slacks off and doesn't't romance her anymore and that is why he doesn;t get it anymore... once men have her where he wants her why should he make the effort to surprise her and romance her..... if men would act the same later they will get the same amount of sex!!
2006-10-02 16:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by M J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of reasons for the amount of sex in a relationship to decrease. But you can't control your partner in a relationship, you can only control yourself. So ask yourself if you're doing everything you can to woo your partner. Do you pay attention to her? Do you take care of an equitable share of the work in the relationship (including housework and cooking, etc?) Maybe she's too tired to have sex as often--if you are taking care of some of the domestic tasks, she'll appreciate it, and be less tired, and that means good news for you in the bedroom.
Sometimes when a woman doesn't want to have sex, it's because she's angry or disappointed in her partner. You may think sex is a great way to "make up" but you have to make up first, and THEN you can have sex!
If you give your partner the impression that you value her more for sex than for anything else, you are TOAST. Value her for her other qualities, and then the sex will take care of itself.
Most people want the same thing--they want to be happy. The difficulty for men and women comes when men expect that what makes them happy will make a woman happy, or vice versa. Get to really know your partner--know what makes her happy. If she's happy, you're going to be happy. Good luck!
2006-10-02 23:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by Yogini108 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you only married her because she was good in the sack. Do you even know what love is? I've been married for 9 years now and I as a female would never step out on my husband. If your that desperate for sex rent a porno or buy a porn mag and jack off. Thats better than jepordizing your marriage if you really love her. Plus is there a reason why she isn't making love to you like she's tired from working all day or caring for kids all day. Think about it, don't be a loser.
2006-10-02 23:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never met a woman who believes that. If you have, I'm sorry, but you met the wrong one, I guess.
Sex is a very big part of marriage/relationship. It is not the only thing, however, if it is absent, it can cause a lot of hostility and stress. Sometimes counseling can help.
But don't ever think that all women think this way, because that is so Not the truth.
2006-10-02 23:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by Cherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. i don't feel that way. actually i feel like there's not enough physical intimacy and I've only been in the relationship for 5 1/2 months. I think it happens in either gender. After a few months or so things change. it kind of sucks. but the newness wears off.
2006-10-02 23:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women truly love sex, others use it only as a tool to tie you down,and once you're fenced in it stops or nearly stops.Simply tell her this is not acceptable and you will split if things don't change.(Even if you don't mean it) Watch her have a major attitude and Libido adjustment
2006-10-03 00:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by Hammer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've had experience with the wrong women in terms of matching libidos. My husband I have been together since 1978, married since 1995, and our "I love you"s have had nothing to do with the frequency or quality of our love life.
2006-10-02 23:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by lovejam05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the man is the one who changes after the " I love You"s are said and the woman's lack of sexual interest in him is reflective of his change in attitude once the woman has been wooed over to his side.
2006-10-02 23:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by trinitybelwoodspark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All women are not like that. I've never lost one bit of my romantic, sexual side. I still enjoy all the things you listed that you do for a lady. I wish you would talk to my hubby.
2006-10-02 23:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by Cookie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women (and men for that matter) are like that.......The majority of us females are decent, loving human beings thta want to love and be loved in a monogamous relationship......
2006-10-02 23:30:51 · answer #10 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋