My Father and Mother got divorced when I was almost two. I don't remember anything about life before the divource, so I'm sort of used to it. I live with my mother, and she is remarried with one boy, and my dad has remarried with one boy too. I have two older sisters. I used to absoultely LOVE going to his house. We would always have fun and go places and meet lots of new people...untill he got married. Since the marrage, my stepmom tries so hard for us to like her, but it makes me dislike her more and more. Even worse, my dad has become an old man! When we're at his house, all he wants to do it spend time watching TV and he goes to bed a7, so we're basiclly up alone all night. i know there is alot of very bad things that my dad did to my mom and us, and that makes me hate him even more. We haven't been to his house in about 3 months, and the last time we did, i cried my eyes out and locked myself in my room. I want to tell my dad that i never want to see him again. HLEP! what do i do?
2006-10-02 16:26:37 · 6 answers · asked by lexiloo54321 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have talked to my mother AND father about these problems. I even went to some lady to talk to her about it. My father did change for the better, but i still hate going to see him. My mom has said that he's my father and i should love him. My dad is one of those people who always talks in a low voice, tells me im beautiful and i can succeed in whatever i want if i put my mind to it, and all that bull crap, but he know nothing about my life. i dont even think he knows i wear bras and makeup yet. for christmas, he told my family what to get me. so i got a party princess crown with the little outfit and shoes and a toddler size jumpsuit outfit. That is just plain rediculous. I didn't even bother to call him on his birthday, because he didn't call me for 4 straight months. I can't stand anything about him. Sometimes me and my sister just cuddle up together and cry, wondering what it would be like to have a real father. It sucks. i hope no one ever has to go through waht im going through
2006-10-02 16:39:38 · update #1
Fathers are one of the most important part of a girls' life. He's your father and you know that he loves you. Whatever he did to your mother was probably wrong, but don't take it out on him. He's older now and that was so long ago. You need to sit down and talk with him and tell him exactly how you feel. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it. Don't let your relationship deteriorate. Hold your father close to your heart and never let anything come between you two. He will understand everything. Just let him know everything that is going on in your life. You will be glad you did!!!
2006-10-02 16:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 23:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight foward like I was with my father. I thought he would be more in me and my brothers life when my sister was killed about 12 years ago and nothing has changed so I told he to get out of my life if he doesnt want to keep in contact with me and I haven't heard anything in the last 4 months and the bad thing is he has a 10 month old granddaughter that he will never see because of the way he acts.
2006-10-02 16:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by ZigZag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like you are having a very bad time with you dad and i am sorry to hear that. I owuld suggest you talk to your mom about it, I know you probably think that is lame but she would give you the best advice of anyone and she would understand your situation better.
2006-10-02 16:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by marlette n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm... well divorce does affect children very much. i have probs with my parents too. hm... just talk to ur dad straight up i guess... (wow. i should listen to my own advice) or... ask urself right now and give urself an advice and follow that advice.
2006-10-02 16:30:19 · answer #5 · answered by xxazaleanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not tell your dad you do not want to see him again......try and talk to him about your feelings instead.......remember he has feelings too......tell him what you want from him so he has no misunderstanding and see if he responds to your needs
2006-10-02 16:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by paco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋