2006-10-02 16:09:42 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't believe that the sex gets boring because sex was part of God's perfect creation. It was his stamp of approval on the intimate relationship between Adam and eve before their sin. Sex is God's gift for marriage and today he wants us to enjoy sex in the confines of marriage. If sex in your marriage is boring it is the person or persons. Try different things within reason. Be creative. God gift doesn't get boring we do.
2006-10-02 16:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by Sweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all marriages lose that passion. However, when you have been married for many years, you get so comfortable with each other that you forget about trying to impress the other. Daily life becomes monotonous and most couples just don't think about it.
Many times this happens after you have kids. Your priorities change and life becomes a little more complicated with the addition to kids.
Marriage is very hard and you have to work at it everyday. If you don't let that passion die down, it will continue to grow.
2006-10-02 23:23:07 · answer #2 · answered by Cherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all has to do with chemicals in peoples bodies. The romance can die after any number of years, and the sex becomes less passionate because chemically the brain doesn't need that type of interaction. It gets boring due to Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love (you can check up on it on Wikipedia if you like)... throughout life a person can experience different levels of Intimacy, love, and passion...
2006-10-02 23:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After about 8 years my wife got bored after 13 I had to get divorced if you want to save our marriage then keep the passion alive
2006-10-02 23:19:42 · answer #4 · answered by paco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see it every day, and I grieve at the loss of love in a marraige, as it slowly gives way to a greusome mechanical exercise, often nothing more than an elongated death. Sex is the natural expression between a man and his wife, based on their feelings of love and respect for one another. Sex, without the basis of love in the heart and mind, becomes a rutting ritual, not worthy of perpetuating. Unfortunately, I see it all too often.
I assume this is an issue that you are wrestling with for some personal reason. I urge you to make it your business to kindle the fire for a great love, with a flame so bright it simply can't be extinguished. Make certain you know her heart, and you are the lead character in her very active fantasy life. Her mind and heart must be protected, nurtured and seduced as an ongoing aspect of your love-making. Neglect this aspect at your own peril!
A woman may perform duties out of a sense of obligation, but you must win her completely before she can give herself fully to you. And why on earth would any man want less than that?
2006-10-03 02:13:10 · answer #5 · answered by The Heart Doctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the couple. If your expecting sex to be at the same level of intensity and passion as it was when you were first together, your setting yourself up for a big disappointment. Its not always going to be at a fever pitch. If its boring, maybe its because you and your spouse are not growing, developing yourselves individually, cultivating new interests or hobbies. Or maybe you are not being completely honest with your partner about what turns you on in bed. Don't be afraid to share your deepest fantasies with your spouse.
2006-10-02 23:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe it has to. But that is totally up to you, if either person stops making the other person the priority and is only in it for selfish gain, it will be boring in 6 months. Every marriage needs imagination, variety, and a touch of planning to stay exciting. I think from day one, it is not a "natural act" that just happens perfectly, you've gotta put some effort in.
2006-10-02 23:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by Melody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have three children and our sex life just got better until we hit year 7 then it got a little boring and not so much passionate but were working on it
2006-10-02 23:17:24 · answer #8 · answered by t_ibrahim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not married any more but have been twice and im presently dating a 52 yr old woman im 46. it seems that after a man says I LOVE U the sex goes down hill, cuz the woman then wants to know if he loves her for her or sex. Then the power struggle begins. a man places sex and love in the same catagory and women do not. women see sex as something they have to do and a man see's it as something they want to do. so to answer your question the passionate sex goes away as soon as a woman feels that she has her man hooked and if he don't like it that's his problem not hers
2006-10-02 23:16:54 · answer #9 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is strictly up to you. We aren't bored with each other after 38 years. If you keep a sense of humor and don't act OLD you will be having a great time for a long time---if you both take care of your health.
2006-10-02 23:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by Cookie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋