okay, i am in 8th grade,gettin gready to turn 14. I used to go out with a bunch of boys in 6th grade, but i slowed donw in 7th grade. now we've been in school for 2 months and i havent had a b/f yet. and now the kid i've liked for 2 years(which doesnt go to my school, but lives acrosst the street) likes me. we held hands and ALMOST kissed. when my mom find out she flipped. she said i lied to her by not telin her. but see, me and my mom arent very close. and 've been trying to get her to trust me more with guys thats hwy i stopped dating so many. but when i finally find someone i really liek and its not one of those pety type relationships she acts like i dont know anything. but shes used to the old me and not the new one. she just focuses on the past and not hte future, but the real question is..HOW DO I GET IT THROUGH MY MOM'S HEAD THAT THIS GUY IS THE ONE ADN HOW DO I GET HER TO TRUST ME. remember, we arent very close.
2006-10-02 16:03:10 · 9 answers · asked by Courtney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your not very close to your Mom, because you think she's just not understanding of you. She's just looking out for you, that's what Mom's do. As you get older, you two will probably be best friends. Listen to your Mom, Your too young to know if this Boy is the one. As far as her trusting you, you didn't say if she has any reason not to. She's just protecting you from yourself. Mom knows Best.
2006-10-02 16:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by Kathy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is earned and unfortunately you ruined that at a very precarious age. So, now you are stuck with what you created. Now you have to take the heat and be mature and don't flip out on mom every time she says something to you. She loves you and she only wants you to be OK and have a good life that's not messed up by babies at a young age or worse, some disease. So, show her respect. Ask her when she is in a good calm mood if he can come over for dinner or something. Go slow, very slow and donm't push him on her and demand that she trust you. You are not trustworthy and 9it will take a long time to become that way again. It really is your job to behave in a lady like manner and explain it all to him also.You are still only 14 and you have put your mom through he**, right? If he likes you he will understand and be willing to help you through the next few months and yes, maybe years. Be good, patient and understanding and trustworthy OK? good luck
2006-10-02 16:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 Dont try to get any adults to believe that this guy is the one. It just ruins any kind of validity that you have to say with the situation.
We are all human and we all makes mistakes, one of the hardest parts of our mistakes is regaining other peoples trusts. You need to have a heart to heart with your mom. Maybe even show her your post here to start the conversation. I am sure that if you two talk you can find a way to compromise to build back some trust. Maybe that you can see this boy but only supervised to start off. Forget about the kissing for now... although it is normal for you to want to, you have plenty of time to do that in the future... if you really like this boy take the time to make things right for the situation.
2006-10-02 16:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by okitty_kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the trust has been broken between you and your mom the only thing that will repair it is time. It may sound corny, but actions do speak louder than words. Once you have shown her over time that you can be trusted, she would hopefully allow you a little more freedom. This does not happen quickly. You said you guys aren't close, but you don't say why? Are you close with your father?
Slow down, take your time, you're still very young. Your mom is probably worried you'll make decisions you are not ready to make.
2006-10-02 16:12:04 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hun,
The first step to letting your mom see the new you is to show her that you have changed.And try to reconnect the natual bond between mother and daughter,by suggesting that you and her do speacial activaties,,such as shopping or haveing her do your hair,,you know stuff like that.Let her know you need a mom,,and a friend.As to your boy-friend let her see you two together alot,,and maybe she will come around and see that you are into this one guy,,and not several other guys.
Building a closeness with your mom is very important at your age,,you need her as much as she needs you dear,,,if the boy truely likes you he will give you space with your mom and still be there for you also.
good luck sweety
2006-10-02 16:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by ladydi_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to open up to her sit down and talk to her... tell her whats on your mind and tell her how you feel about this boy across the street... parents are always going to keep bringing up the past until they see different in you as a person... you have to show her you have changed so maybe she can start trusting you again... Try talking to your mom more about different things and then maybe your relationship will build from there;
Good Luck;
2006-10-02 19:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by shorty_2_us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find a common ground with your Mom and spend some time with her when she gets to know this "New" you you may find she likes her. dont let to much time come between you nad your Mom mine died last year. as for the boy, well you are very young, but I too am a mom and let my children make their own choices but they talked to me a lot. try talking to your mom. Good Luck
2006-10-02 16:11:03 · answer #7 · answered by stormyjoem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...... U can run away from home and stay in ur boyfriends closet. JUST KIDDING. U should have one those long talks about the past and blah blah blah.... u know the moment talk.
2006-10-02 16:10:13 · answer #8 · answered by Ha Ha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your question is so long. hard to focus on it.
2006-10-02 16:22:00 · answer #9 · answered by youthebest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋