i need some serious help?

Question

okay, my neighbors son comes over on the weekends, is a year older,and goes to a different school, but the school is still not far, and last weekend when he came over we held hands and stuff we didnt kiss, and we were really clingy. I like him soooo much. i think it might be my 'first love' and i wanna know if i can tell him that or ya think he'd be like too shocked or something. and also, how can i get my mom to trust me more with this stuff??? im 14

Answer 1

If you are holding hands and getting clingy, he knows. You might want to wait a few days before you tell him and see if he says something first. To get your mother to trust you, you have to discuss with her about sex and take her advice about how far to go, and other important matters. Young love is wild spirited and could be dangerous if you don't be careful. At your age, most guys and gals don't stay with each other a long time, but still remain friends.

Answer 2

Dang! At 14 what stuff do you want to be trusted with????? You might just hold hands for the next 2 yrs. is all and be thankful if she is allowing that because that leads to other stuff and all that other stuff leads to babies, if you're lucky and you don't get Aides or Hep. C. So, don't worry about love at 14. He is far from the love of your life, I betcha that! Now, just slow it down and try to be a friend and neighbor. that's all you are mature enough to handle, and I'm not your mom. I'd keep you locked up pretty tight if I were. Of course she doesn't know it all does she??? Sorry messed up on some info. got excited. 14 yr. olds and hand holding gets me going.

Answer 3

First off, I hardly doubt this will be your "first love". Really get to know him on an initimate level (does not necessarily involve sex). Make sure you spend more time doing things like hold hands, talking, cuddling, etc. before going out there and shouting to the world your love for him. Please do not mistake lust for love. You can get your mom to trust you more, by being an honest child. Do not lie to your mother, even small white lies tend to ruin a parents trust in their child. I am not saying you have to go out and tell your mom every little thing you do or say, but when your mother asks something tell her the truth. You are now entering the "dating age" and it will difficult for any parent to trust their child...especially for young girls. (Speaking from personal experience). Build a strong and healthy and most importantly HONEST relationship with your mother...and you will realize how trusting she will become.

Answer 4

As a Mom, I would like to tell you that most parents' issue is not with trust, it is that we love our kids and we don't want them to get into situations they are not ready to handle yet. The more you accept the guidelines your Mom has for you, the more she will "trust" you. She will know that you won't go behind her back and do things she is afraid would hurt you or get you in trouble.
As for telling the young man ....let him tell you first.

Answer 5

well if all that happened ,he likes u too i bet he feels the same way ,but do not sleep together u r way too young to handle all that and besides that u should be married to sleep together , so slow down a bit good luck

Answer 6

tell him you are developing feelings for him and ask him how he feels about that....You need to tell your mother that you like this boy, and be open to her about what you're doing nd where you're going....that way she will see that you can be trusted.....as long as the parents feel informed they will trust you

Answer 7

well take your time do not rush into anything. Let it continue for a while he will know by the affection you are sharing. But take your time do not rush into anything.

Answer 8

tell him how you feel and ask him if he feels the same