What I mean is....can one be driven to cheat?
2006-10-02 15:47:59 · 21 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, How can someone be driven to cheat? those are just excuses for ones actions
2006-10-02 15:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Shortie♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Justification sounds like an excuse. People can make excuses for anything and believe in it. In the end it's how it affects your life and the people around you.
People are driven to make the choices they do. I am driven to work out because I want a healthier body, which is ultimately good for me. One can make the choice to either work on the current relationship or put investment into an additional relationship. This usually puts someone in a compromised situation. So, what are you really asking? Is it okay? It depends on what the outcome is. If you choose to cheat what are you looking for? Love? Sex? Validation? Does someone really need to cheat to find that? Infidelity is considered morally wrong, yet many relationships can survive if both people are willing to invest again and seek some counseling. So if you are planning on cheating, what is it you want? If you are wanting to sabotage your relationship then this is a good way to start. If you want love but feel frustrated in your relationship you won't feel much better in cheating. If you are driven by sex then you may have your priorities mixed up.
So no, infidelity doesn't feel good. It may seem exciting at first, yet in the end most people end up with more problems than they started with.
2006-10-02 16:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by DanaZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infidelity can never be justified by a cheater, they only can come up with excuses. By this time many hearts have been devasted because of wrong choices made by the cheater. A spouse's world has been mangled, children are suffering, families ripped apart trust between two people has been broken, the foundation built by two has now been crumbled by one. Nothing good ever comes out of cheating. Infidelity is wrong it is never right.It can take years to rebuild what was lost; and I do believe a marriage can survive this but the unfaithful one must do everything in their power to prove their worth and this may take the rest of their life And yes I believe someone can be driven or lured into cheating by the one they're cheating with / cheating is full of nothing but lust and lies and stupid dumb wrong choices. That's never ever
good!!!
2006-10-02 16:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by Vicki A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By infidelity if you mean when can a married man or a woman have a sexual relationship with another person, then there is one time when I believe it is justified, and that is when the spouse is diabled and unable to perform sexually. However, the couple must agree to the sexual activity. Some people think if you are not married that you can be cheated on, but if you are not married there is no contract to remain faithful which is what we mean by marriage. A boyfriend cannot cheat on his girlfriend because they are just friends.
2006-10-02 16:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by Bill B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. From a man's point of view, and having seen this happen all around me (women and men), I say this:
If the marriage goes sour, and fights are more frequent than anything else, those things will drive both men and women to seek the love they are no longer finding in each other.
If there is no discourse, I have also seen both women and men just get bored and have a fling.
In either case, you can say boredom or hate drove the spouse to cheat. I say it's a choice, and you can choose not to.
You can also choose to forgive, or not.
2006-10-02 15:56:36 · answer #5 · answered by jumping_in_101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think so. Nobody can make u do anything u didn't want to do in the first place. You're either a cheater, or u aren't...plain and simple. And I don't care how others try to justify cheating. There's absolutely NO good excuse to cheat...period.
2006-10-02 15:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only time I think infedelity is only ok if BOTH partners are ok with it. If the woman cannot perform (or vice versa) then the two should talk it out and come to a happy medium.
I will be honest with you, I also dont think infidelity is wrong in the event of multi partner sex. I enjoy those and dont mind my hubby joining in.
2006-10-02 17:43:27 · answer #7 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look for a bunch of anonymous strangers (and some of us are stranger than others...) to give you permission to do something that is wrong. Cheating may seem fun or exciting at first, but it is a one way ticket to heartbreak and hurt for everyone, and most especially the innocent victims who have no voice in the decision making process of the cheaters. Don't do it, you will thank yourself for it later.
2006-10-02 17:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about this. when u were a teenager and u kept asking ur parents over and over again for something and they said no u did what u felt u had to do to get it. sex is no different, most of the time a woman will use her p$#@#, mouth, or whatever to hook a man then after they committ to each other or worse yet marry, then the no, no, no, no no's start. a man says honey will u do this (fill in the blank) like u did when we were dating and she tells him no, after a while he wants to have that need fulfilled and gets it done. is he right, NO but neither is his partner
2006-10-02 16:12:39 · answer #9 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we are all human. A lot of things can drive a person to cheat. Neglect is a big one, and so is lack of communcation. When you feel that what you say does not matter to your spouse or partner, you feel neglected. This all equals to not feeling wanted or loved. Sometimes this can cause you to look elsewhere for that attention. It is sad that many marriages fall apart due to cheating, when a conversation between the couple could fix things. Talking about what you need and want is so important in a relationship, and may help save it.
2006-10-02 15:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by GiGi 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋