i have never been married and i am just 19 but because my parents are separated, and my father has other children i began to hate the idea of marriage, almost all my uncle and aunt are separated, they hate their marriage and they are not happy being married, they are not even happy and contented with their children,like i thought all parents would have considered their children as a blessing but for their case they dont.
i dont want to get married or have a boyfriend because i know they will hurt me too like what my father did to my mother, and vice versa, i am sick of people getting married, saying their i do's and promising to one another but they dont really do it, like celebrities. i dont like to do it, what would you tell me to change my opinion am i wrong to feel this way?
2006-10-02 15:47:24 · 20 answers · asked by haringmarumo 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i dont think its wrong, we all belive in differnt things, so yeah
2006-10-02 15:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its a bad thing. Not everyone wants to get married. Some people are happy being single their entire life. However, you are looking at marriage in a negative way. Some people have wonderful marriages. Marriage is very hard and it has to be worked on daily. So many people just give up when it gets too hard.
My advice...live your life and let it work itself out. If you don't want to get married..then don't. It is your choice. But if love finds you, don't push it away just because you are afraid that you will end up like your parents, etc. Work hard at it and don't give up like others do.
Good luck.
2006-10-02 16:30:12 · answer #2 · answered by Cherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope not for now with time that opiinion might change. Not all marriages are bad. Most people just don't try and get bored with one another. It is hard to make marriages work. To me it is one of the hardest things you will ever do besides giving birth to a child. Marriage is not for everyone. I have tried 2 times and i plan on staying single after this one. We all make mistakes and we pay for them too and so do the one's around us. I guess we get alittle selfish.You are only 19 and you should be having fun and not thinking about all these bad marriages..
2006-10-02 16:05:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not marraige that you hate its how people dont take it seriously. And i agree with you, i believe that once you say i do and your vows before god than you stick by them no matter what. Yes there are so so many people out there that have been married..once, twice and even more than three times in their life. But also look at those who are still together. It takes love and honesty to make a marragie work. Love is not just a word, people abuse it like its just nothing and think they are in love. When you know your in love you will know its love. just dont rush into things so fast, thats one of the major things people do, they rush into a marriage without really knowing the other person just to find out that they dont like them. So i recomand anyone if they want to get married make sure you are with the one for a while, enough to know there flaws and bad things you dont like, if you are willing to still love them after that than take the next step. dont be affraid of marragie just because so many have derstroyed the meaning for them, its a wonderful thing if you just do it right, and take your time before rushing into anything.
2006-10-02 16:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, there are some good marriages out there.
Be selective, get to know a man for a long time before you sleep with him, find a guy with a sense of humour that you like, talk to each other about what is important to you both (like, if you both want children, how many children, how were you disciplined as a child, observe him with his mother, what are goals in life, your morals & values, your religion, where you might like to live when you are married)
You would be surprised how many women marry because the guy is "cute" or looks good in blue-jeans. Some girls spend more time selecting their wedding gown than they do choosing the man they are going to marry!
They say before you marry a man you should see him when he is ill, trying to untangle Christmas lights, and driving in heavy traffic.
Good Luck
2006-10-02 15:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have seen first hand how marriages sometimes go bad. If you feel like you don't want to ever get married, there is nothing wrong with that. There are a lot of people who decide to stay single.
2006-10-02 15:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohh look i do understand what you mean also, i dont really belev in marriage as they never seem to work out lol you are not wrong to feel this way, iv never been marryed but you can only try something once cant you, just becoz your mum,dad didnt work out dont mean if you were to get marryed the same thing would happen to you, noone wants to bne hurt but offten people lurn from it and offten do it better the next round, everyone has been hurt be4 you are not the only one, thats the way of life, you no the saying...the grass is greener on the other side lol you can only trust once dont take your self away from love hun and dont be afrade life is to short to be worrying wether you are going to be hurt or not, dont let other experences of other people freek you out of experenceing you own love life, dont be lonly becoz of it....just go with it becoz you are not the only one that worrys bout that, just get on bord and member that you can only trust once, HUGS
2006-10-02 15:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by mysterious26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage isn't for everybody,it takes a lot of work love and trust. but to say you don't like it because other people have filed your head with negative perceptions i feel is not fair. your only 19 you haven't even lived yet. your just starting your life. marriage shouldn't even be thought about. reevaluate your feelings,there are happy people out there.any was you have every right to your own opinion and i respect that.
2006-10-02 15:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by greg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you. Not having a boyfriend will mean you miss out on love and life. Not all people end up separated and divorced but if you go into life thinking that is what is going to happen then more than likely it will.
All I can say to change your mind is that there is a state of happiness when you are with someone who you love and they love you that you will never be able to get.
2006-10-02 15:51:25 · answer #9 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no not at all , i have been married for 7 yrs now and its getting a little rocky ,, plus everyone i know has gotten divorced,,, if i end up in a divorce ill never marry again ,, it changes people for some strange reason
2006-10-02 16:25:00 · answer #10 · answered by t_ibrahim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at 19, you shouldn't be even thinking of marriage..Go out have some fun and don't be afraid to have boyfriends...girlfriends can hurt you just as much..Life is full of challenges and you need to take chances to grow, learn from your mistakes and move forward..You are at the best time of your life so please enjoy it, have fun go party, you don't need to think about settling down at this age. Don't even think about that..
2006-10-02 16:05:49 · answer #11 · answered by forbiddenfruit9 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋