well my dad did this year and i'm only in middle school!!He killed hiself! We were all so sad I had to change schools and my 3 year old sister and 6 year old brother wants to konw hen daddy is coming home! What do you think i should say?? mom get upset about I'm to scraed to ask her?!?!?
2006-10-02 15:44:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
And also October is his Brithday and mom & dads Anrvisray
2006-10-02 15:58:32 · update #1
What a big burden for an adult much less someone in middle school. I am so sorry about what has happened to your family. There is too much to tell you here. Your mom is probably feeling a lot of guilt and worry and anger and hurt, just for starters. Your brother is probably old enough to understand what death is but I don't know if telling him by yourself is a good idea. You need an adult to go to, since it sounds like you are now the family's care giver. Start with a teacher or your principal or if you go to church, someone there. Maybe a friend's mom or da. There are people who's job it is to help families just like yours and help kids just like you, and a teacher or principal or church leader will know exactly how to get you the help you need. You're very brave and strong, and your family is very lucky to have you. Let me know how you're doing.
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2006-10-02 15:58:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-29 08:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through. Growing up is hard enough without this weight on your shoulders. You should talk to your mom even if it does upset her. You all need to talk about it and get through this together! Stick together as a family to help one another. You'll get through this tough time. It's hard, but time will make things a little easier. You may want to talk to a couselor at school if one is available. Just someone who you can let all your feelings out to. And sometimes an outsider can really help put things in perspective and offer some helpful advice to get through the day.
2006-10-02 15:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by fiestyredhead 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to hear about your father. I have a friend whose father killed himself. People do that for all kinds of reasons that have nothing to do with anyone else. My mother died of cancer when I was ten. My father died of heart problems when I was sixteen, so I can relate to finding yourself missing your parent unexpectedly.
My sister died when my nephew was three. He saw my other sister crying, and he crawled up in her lap. He whiped away her tears and said, "Big girls do not cry. Mommy is in Heaven now with the angels."
My mom told me before she died that our bodies are like space suites that let us live on this planet. Some times they stop working, when that happens we have to go home where our souls can be free.
I think you figure out which of those works for your family's belief system and you use what your family will be comfortable with as an explanation.
2006-10-02 15:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by freggs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry.
I know this is traumatic for the whole family. You should be talking with your mom, but I understand she is overwhelmed. I hope you have some other adult you can talk to, maybe a school counselor? or a relative? It is not good for you to face this without adult support.
It's really your mom's job to talk to the little kids, but you can tell them he's not coming home; tell them he died, no details at this point. Only give them information that can help them.
2006-10-02 15:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them thier dad is gone, but you won't go anywhere and will always be there for them.
hope this helps
I lost my mom 2 years ago to heart attack----no same situation so i don't knwo what you are going through----but i do know the greif of a parent ( sudden death)
take care
2006-10-02 15:50:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My mom died 4 years ago from lung cancer. Try to tell your siblings as much of teh truth as you can for their age. Tell them "Daddy's in Heaven."
2006-10-02 15:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth about your Dad and let him know that he is with God now and is doing just fine, also tell him he will be able to see him when it is his time to go to heaven.
2006-10-02 15:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh darlin, i am so sorry. maybe you could try talking to your teacher or guidance counselor. they will know who to send you to. also, talking to your mom really will help. i am sure that she is hurting also, but she needs to know what you guys are feeling also. maybe you can find a group for children of people who commit suicide, but that might be hard for you to do... just talk to your teachers or guidance counselors... they want to help you!!
2006-10-02 15:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by whaaatthe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is allways with you but uvisible, remember and love him, he needs you very much, pray for him and talk to him.
2006-10-02 16:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by a flower 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋