My husband came on and surprised me tonight with flowers. I had been so down because I thought he was mad at me but he said he was just having a bad day. He said I was a "good little girl" this morning and said he was giving me 2 "good girl points". I know that might sound weird but he has a system for me where I earn "good girl points" for doing things like having sex with him without questioning him or giving him a massage when he didn't ask me to or automatically cleaning up after him..things like that. He said I am up to 75 points now and he said I could "cash them in" for him to take me to the beach or I could wait til I get to 120 and he would take me on a cruise!!! I don't know what to do, i'm so happy. It might take me a few more months to earn those points and also I can get points deducted for being a bad girl, so I'm not sure what to choose. I know I would really like to go to the beach now but I have never been on a cruise. What should I do?
2006-10-02 15:35:29 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How many points for a divorce?
2006-10-02 15:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by Wait a Minute 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
That's so sweet.
How many points do you lose if you go on a cruise without him?
Since your relationship has been turned into a competition and points system, then you should be able to score somewhere else, too. You could not only earn points, but he could pimp you out and you could earn real cash!
What if he loses his job and you have to support him? How many points does he get for cleaning the toilet?
I know, kinda facetious, but you should read up on some ancient matriarchal cultures that honored women as the source of all life. You should never be having sex without question unless you want it, and then, what are the points for? If you want to go on a cruise or to the beach, you go. You don't 'earn' it.
His system sounds a little one-sided, and I wonder if that's getting kinda psycho.
2006-10-02 15:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by auntiegrav 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the one who asked how many points you need for a divorce......lol.
That is one whacked out situation you have. I know I wouldn't stay in a marriage when a man treated me that way.
Having a point system like that that you both take seriously struck me as something a young immature couple would do around age 18 or 20.........it just has an immature sound to it.
I'm 43 years old, and if a man were keeping points on me, I would point him to the door.
Besides, I think a healthy relationship should be 50/50 and both of you doing nice things for each other. Yours sounds too one-sided and very demeaning.
2006-10-02 15:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow! How can you put up with this guy? You have earned more than enough "good girl" points for 3 or 4 cruises. Why did you want to marry him in the first place? How does this make your family feel? Do they like him? Do they want to be around you guys? Does Dad do this to your Mom?
2006-10-05 15:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by Colleen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait for the 120 points, and take the cruise.
But why do you have a points system? Does he earn points from a system with you? If this point system is a mutual thing, then I guess you two have an interesting relationship solution. If it's not mutual, then it seems a little controlling on his part.
2006-10-02 15:41:44 · answer #5 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well I guess the question we are all dying to know is HOW OLD ARE YOU?????? if you have to earn points for him to be nice to you and treat you to romantic things..I think thats pretty sad..he's got you tied right around his finger and knows he has you at his beckon call 24/7. You got married to get away from being a child..my advice is to act like a grown up....
and to answer your question...think about it..if he's offering to take you on a cruise...GO....have fun...you might earn points for a coke or something on the cruise....
dont mean to sound harsh hear..but think about what your asking before you post it.!!!!!!!!
2006-10-02 15:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by blondemom133 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take it from this guy, if he's treating you like that, then I'm sorry but he's a jerk, and you should get rid of him. He should love you for who you are not what you do, that's sickening, Tell him no more points, and he should start treating you with the respect you deserve. One more thing, tell him he's cut off until he earns 100 "good boy" points.
2006-10-02 15:45:32 · answer #7 · answered by Sentinel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
RUN now he is a controlling *** and treats you like his pet or kid instead of wife you sound like one of these women who allow their husbands to degrade them and sign contracts for marriage
you love and marriage should be a team work together their is no good girl/bad girl unless your role playing Have more respect for your self and demand respect from your husband **** the points honey tell him to take you on a cruise no matter what happens because he loves you and you are worthy of a cruise!!!!! Please women like you make men think we are doormats GROW UP!!!!
2006-10-02 15:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by abarber69 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, I'm assuming you're NOT a "little girl" - so why be treated as one?
This is your husband, not your father.
If you want to "play games", what about points for your husband?
My cousin Vinnie says, "Get a new guy".
2006-10-02 15:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by JubJub 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I only pray that you do not have any children. Believe it or not, you will end up hating this man with all your heart. When that time comes, you will also be so afraid of him, you will be frozen in fear and unable to make a decision to get out - the best years of your life will be wasted. But you are the one who has to grow up.
2006-10-02 15:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by Stupe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Same answer with others..how many more points for a divorce? Madam, you are definitely a human being, a wife, a person, why in the world would a husband do such rating thing to his wife and his wife absolutely accepts and feels appreciated instead of humiliated? I just don't get it..
2006-10-02 15:46:39 · answer #11 · answered by yanti b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋