For example this guy I know generally treats girls like crap, thinks of them as nothing more than mere sexual objects, and generally doesn't care about them, yet he gets the girls all the time, while I on the other hand, really care about what a girl has to say, because I'd rather have a smart average girl, than a stupid hot girl, also I take them to nice places, i.e. to the movies, out to eat, and places they ask me to go, I even watch movies with them that I totally hate, tell them there beatuiful and mean it, only tell them I love them when I truly mean it, I think you get the picture by now. Yet I always end up where I started, or lets just be friends, or your not my type. I know, a lot of people would say, "dude, just don't be yourself, be the guy she wants you to be, and if all else fails, lie!". Well thats not me, and it will never be me, I'm sorry, but it won't, to some that may sound lame and stupid, but I still have a little class, and moral fiber left in my body.
2006-10-02 15:27:01 · 13 answers · asked by chad s 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Because chicks can be as superficial as guys can
2006-10-02 15:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by mahree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how old you are...I'm assuming still young. At some point, when everyone grows up a bit, like in college or after, things really will change. Do always be yourself. It is always the best policy. The world is a big place and full of people. You likely haven't met a wide variety of people yet, but you will. Just enjoy your life and experience it for the joy of living. Don't take the couple thing too seriously. It will all come together in good time. You sound like a great person. You wll eventually find someone worthy of you who sees you as you are.
2006-10-02 15:32:37 · answer #2 · answered by knowledgeisgood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chicks dig this guy cause he is independent. He acts like he doesnt need them. I bet he is not a total asshole to these girls he just knows when to be nice, which is not all the time. He is mean to them only sometimes. Women are attracted to his confidence that he is not needy, that he can take care of himself and get and take the things he wants for himself, and not care what other people think about it. Try it some time. Be nice to a girl, but only averagely nice, then be averagely cruel to her, then nice agian then cruel. Back and forth. Do this to all the women you know or for that matter, everyone, even the guys you know. I bet every one you know will start to respect you more and the girls will start to want to date you by their own accord because they will be attracted to you more. Its worth a little experiment. You will see people in general respect independence. After that you will see that your more and more in charge of your relationships, or at least, have more power in them. As for this not being you? That sounds like ego to me. This is the way people are and if you cant accept what needs to be accepted then, my friend, your SOL.
2006-10-02 15:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by Danomano 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have it all. Don't give up on yourself, you'll find that special person who will appreciate you for all that you are.
I've worked with some real ladies men for years. I remember some of the other guys talking just like you are. I have to tell you that the "players" didn't end up too good in the long run. It was the group of guys that felt like you do, that found that special one in their lives, married and started families happily.
Take my word for it - you are ahead in the game, you just don't know it yet.
2006-10-02 15:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by Paige2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a problem.
Perhaps it would help if you remember that women and men evolved differently. Men are driven by testosterone and seek to inseminate as many fertile women as possible. Women, on the other hand, look for men who are potential providers for the mother and her young. The macho guy may look more like the cave man provider. You, on the other hand, need to exploit your attractive properties by listening attentively and discussing your talents and stable nature.
Don't lie, that is so tacky.
2006-10-02 15:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by valcus43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls just like guys... like a challenge. Sad but true. Don't lie... but don't tell too much too soon either. Be polite, sincere etc... but leave a little to the imagination.
Good luck and glad to hear someone that's willing to keep to their morals when dating.
2006-10-02 15:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww :) it takes a real man to be one......
you no what just keep being you dude, guys that are cold with girls have no respect latter on you will see, you do have class and dont worry bout what other guys are doing worry bout your self and no that you are the best out there okay, and oneday you will find a grl that would so respect you for that,
2006-10-02 15:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by mysterious26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a woman n i'm shy til u get to carry close me. i will sit down in school quiet n no longer communicate with all of us n wen ppl communicate with me i'm getting worried...... yet when ik u n were acquaintances i'm so significantly better outgoing .... I only get worried round more recent human beings n i'm getting scared..... adult adult males continually calls me lovable n lovable cuz i'm shy, short, were given an wonderful body, im sweetheart til u piss me off, stuff like that......
2016-11-25 23:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by mccullun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its how the world turns
dont ever stop being nice, it'll pay off. i know its hard to stick with it, but it will be worth it in the end
(example, the other guy will get herpes or hep C, and no girl will want to touch him, while you fall madly in love with a gorgeous woman who loves you for you, and is addicted to sex)
2006-10-02 15:36:48 · answer #9 · answered by MRose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be patient. someday soon, a fine woman will come along who would truly appreciate your sincerity and like you for who you truly are.
i, for one, applaude you for being courageous enough to show the 'real' you and sticking with what you believe. there aren't many out there who would dare to do so :)
2006-10-02 15:43:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋