i have been dating this man for 1.5 year and we plan to get married next year. i was wondering since we have more than 30 year gap, what must i be aware of?? and also we come from different cultural background. I m from asia and he is from america
2006-10-02 15:23:58 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HIs dentures falling out during oral sex maybe?
2006-10-02 15:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a 17 year age difference between me and my husband. things to thing about.
You will always be the younger woman.My husband never fails to make me feel cherished and taken care of and special.
Your husband may have health problems, you may need to become a caregiver for a time.
You may have different interest and enjoy different things because of the age difference and the difference in culture. Finding things you enjoy together can be a lot of fun.
I have been happily married for 21 years. Best of luck to you.
If you love him enough now for the age and culture difference not to matter then being with him will probably always be the most important thing to you and out weigh any disadvantages. If you have doubts now explore them to the fullest before you make any commitment. Follow your heart.
2006-10-02 15:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by childofthefifties 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most old men are full of complaints, especially the wealthy ones.
If u are looking for a fast change to US citizenship this might be the way, but then there are guys ur age that would take u in a minute.
Is he rich? U need some kind of bonus if u decide to sleep with an old man twice your age. I think your sex life will be shot to H-ll.
Do not think it is your fault!
If u love him, I see no problem. If u do not love him, then u will have to pretend for the rest of his days.
I would not do it, but this is your choice. Good luck to u! Asian women r foremost part r beautiful and make great friends!
2006-10-02 15:43:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a really good idea to wait another year to get married.
If you're both willing to compromise it may work.
Just go into it knowing that under the best of circumstances marriage takes effort on both sides....a 31 year age difference and coming from different cultures you'll have your work cut out for you.
Love is very important but it takes more than love.
2006-10-02 15:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is fine cause I had a crush on an old man once. Keep in mind, his feelings for you may never change but your feelings cause of the age gap may go away. It did for me. Just makes sure he loves you for you. This may sound to many people here who give advice about him bein to old for sex and will not live long. Well, the old man was infactuated with me and thought about sex more than me. So, therefore, you and him may live two to whatever years together but it will be the best of his life. lol!!!
2006-10-02 15:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by brookie1977m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to discourage you but you are looking forward to a lot of suffering and a number of lonely years.
His life expectancy is about 10 less than yours. So by the time you are in your mid 40's he will probably be dead or very seriously ill.
I am 8 years older than my wife and have health problems and it is not fun for her, believe me! Before I became ill ever thing was great for both of us. Once I got sick our friends disappeared and we were left alone. She had no one to talk to or visit with and her life became miserable.
My health has improved to the point we can go out and do things so her life has improved as well. I do not mean to dwell on my life I want to just show you what you have to look forward to.
2006-10-02 15:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things-be sure to respect each others cultures. Are you truly in love or are there other factors in play? If you are truly in love then the things you need to be aware of are the same regardless of age. Trust, honor, and commitment.
since he is 61 health may be an issue. be aware if his wishes when it comes to health decisions, and be prepared to care for him if he were to become ill. good luck.
2006-10-02 15:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Down Syndrome kids specifically, trisomy of the 21st chromosome. Older men are at higher risk of having kids with the genetic disorder. And make sure you have a solid and legal will made. You will want to make sure that you and any debt is taken care of... considering his age... should anything happen. It is the sad scary truth of marrying someone much older. I wish you both the best of luck. May God bless your marriage.
Congratulations!
2006-10-02 15:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be prepared to take care of an old man when you are still a young woman. Be prepared to not have children with this man because it would be unfair for a childs father to die of old age before they are in high school. Be prepared to stay home every night because hubby is tired, be prepared to eat dinner at 4pm. be prepared to visit your hubby in the old age home when you are only 50.... think it through, it may not be the long term future you would like it to be.
2006-10-02 16:20:21 · answer #9 · answered by sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in america we have this saying. age ain't nothing but a number. if he makes you happy, why not. the only thing, you might be concern about, is the fact that you probably will pass on before you, but that can happen when couples are the same age.
also, in america we have this saying... i would rather be an older man's sweet heart than a young man's fool.
congrats, and good luck!!!
2006-10-02 15:32:44 · answer #10 · answered by Niecy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you are wasting your life. It would be unfair to the children if you plan on having any, in many MANY ways. I'm assuming he has devorced many times. Whose to say he won't devorce you? Let's say that can't happen. So.. by the time your 40, he's probably dead and what are you going to do with your life? I don't think anyone would want to marry a 40 year old woman.
2006-10-02 15:27:53 · answer #11 · answered by blah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋