He borrows like 10 movies at a time but will keep then for like a year before he brings them back, and when he does the cases on the vhs's are either gone or really sticky like he spilled something on them and the dvds are all scratched up. I would say for every 10 movies he borrows I may get 2-3 back. Now he is wanting to borrow more, how can I tell him no without hurting his feelings, cause he is a nice guy?
2006-10-02 15:17:02 · 24 answers · asked by Crystal 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to stop worrying about hurting his feelings. He is inconsiderate of you and doesn't care about your property or feelings. You could tell him there will be a rental fee. But, what I would do is tell him the truth. I would say, "We're not lending you anymore movies in the interest of our friendship because you don't bring them back and you don't take care of them." Then tell him you'll be glad to fix him dinner one night - and smile.
2006-10-02 15:22:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey u have a voice tell her the next time he wants to borrow a movie that Ur gonna charge him for the movie and charge him for late fees just like the do at Blockbuster or a any other video store.
I mean she's not being very neighborly, U can also tell him that he needs to go get his own movies if she wants to rent movies, he's taking advange of ur kindness. U should go over to her place and get ur movies back don't feel afraid that u may hurt his feeling ( he's not thinking about ur feeling since he's keeps borrowing and keeping them for a yr)
I use to let neighbor borrow but I had to stop because it was getting to be too much. And thats a sure way to become mad at end other( the borrowing thing is not a good idea)
Sweetie get ur movies back& never allow him to borrow anymore unless ur charge him, because sounds like he's trying to keep them for himself( I just hope u don't have to take him to court)
Good Luck Sweetie
2006-10-02 15:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not a nice guy or he would take better care of other people's stuff. Just tell him no he can't borrow them because last time he borrowed them it took forever to return them and they were beaten up. I would also ask for some compensation for the ones he ruined. You can't let people like that walk all over you- you work for the stuff you have- why let someone else destroy it? He didn't care about your feelings when he allowed your stuff to get damaged.
2006-10-02 15:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You go to let him know that you don't mean any harm but he is causing a problem by getting your movies and not bringing them back and if they are then something is wrong with them. You have to hurt people feelings some times to get what you need done.
2006-10-02 15:20:45 · answer #4 · answered by ~G.R.A.D.U.A.T.E~08 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's see...if he borrows them and you want them back, how bout calling him up (easier without the face to face) and say that you have another friend wanting to see it or that you yourself would like to watch it?
If you don't want to lend him anymore you could either drop hints that the local library usually stocks the same movies for free or invite to watch the movies at your place at your convenience?
2006-10-02 15:21:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you feel that he is taking advantage of you and not respecting your property that you are letting him borrow. I would just stop letting him borrow movies entirely. Tell him to get netflix or something. Be assertive girl!
2006-10-02 15:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by Sara Lee 23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say "as soon as you bring me back the other ones you borrowed I can let you borrow these." And if they come back messed up, ask "what happened to these?"
2006-10-02 15:19:22 · answer #7 · answered by NOIZE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're not loaning out anymore of your things, certain people have a problem returning your things to you and it cost you money to buy these things. Never loan out your things again, people will not take care of them like you do. Nice people will return your things to you in a timely manner and make sure nothing is damaged. And if they are damaged, they should offer to pay for those damages.
2006-10-02 15:24:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for your movies back because you would like to watch them. Then if he ask again - tell him you have decided not to loan your movies out any more because you are having trouble w/friends not returning them, and when you want to watch something you can't because they are all loaned out. He should understand this.
2006-10-02 15:25:22 · answer #9 · answered by ROCKY5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After asking/reminding him several times with no results I would start hanging nice little reminder signs in my window for all to see. Either that, or make a sign on a stake, and put it in my front lawn.
2006-10-02 15:22:24 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋