Hi all,
I'm 28 and marrying my longterm boyfriend who is 35. Right now obviously the age difference doesn't pose any kind of problem because we're both young adults and in the same life stage, blah blah.
But can I expect any problems later on? Say, when I'm 45 and he's 52? Or when I'm 60 and he's 67?
Do you think the age difference will ever be a big problem when we're older, since he's going to age quicker than me?
2006-10-02 15:12:16 · 19 answers · asked by Doctor Phil 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sarah - We actually already have a kid (i know, out of wedlock, bad). She's a year old, and we don't want any more children.
2006-10-02 15:15:45 · update #1
Youcan expect the same problems that people the same age have, and the same problems we all have.
2006-10-02 15:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No 7 years is not bad. i know people with over 10 years differece and the only problem would of been having kids but seeings as you have that already settled. Theres nothing, you two are not that far apart. Its true that guys take longer to mature than women so dating older men than yourself is best. You two will have your same interests and dislikes but are willing to work on your problems. And having problems down the road wont have anything to do with the age, everyone will just have there problems just because. Be happy and enjoy the time you have together, you seem happy so thats the only thing. Hes old enough that he knows what he wants and as well as you and you both dont want to waste any more time and when you see what yous like you go after it. I am happy for yous both, and dont worry as long as theres love and trust the age dont matter!
2006-10-02 16:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only problem I can see will be in the short term. He is 35 and may want kids now before he's too old to play with them. Are you ready at 28 to have kids in the next year or so?
As you get older, the problems will become less.
2006-10-02 15:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats not a huge age difference. However, a friend of mine is married to an older man, by 7 years, and she is seeing someone else. I'm not an advocate of that, but it's true. Marriage is difficult. The more you have in common, the better.
On the other hand, if he is a truly good man, your daughter deserves having both parents.
2006-10-02 15:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by Lanna b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't see any problems. I just got married to a man 7 years older than me. I am 43 and he is 50. We have been together for three years and have lots of things in common age wise and no serious health problems.
2006-10-02 15:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 yrs is nothing. You are still within the same age category at least. I know people who have been married 25 years and have a 20 year age difference. Good thing is at least you know he is not lacking maturity.( you know they don't mature as fast as we do.) lol! What does matter is you two. How you are now and how you grow to be toward one another in the future. That little number or those little numbers have nothing to do with love.
2006-10-02 15:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by Miss T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i married my wife when she was 20 and i was 30 that was 25 years ago. The age difference with us is not an issue. people get older, looks change, health changes that's life. the key to me is a life partner. One that you cant do with out and you are that way for her. Age doesn't matter, one you can depend on is.
2006-10-02 18:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by robug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why even get married? you have done all the things that married people do and all the marriage thing does is give you a peice of paper that you have to fill that says you both got married to one another. I say leave weel enough alone and stay the way you are. I am 8 years younger than my husband and i have found that in our 5 years of marriage he is lazy and sex is not a big issue with him....
2006-10-02 15:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure hope not! My husband is six yrs. younger than me. I was with an older man before and I was soon ashamed to be seen with him , because of the 13 yr. difference - when I was younger . I was 16 he was 29 in the next 5yrs. I was 21 he was42 , it made a differnce! We looked different from each other then.
2006-10-02 15:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by kierstead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is only a number!
If he is active and takes care of himself the age difference will never be a problem, if however he sits around all day and does nothing, that will only get worse as he gets older.....
2006-10-02 15:26:23 · answer #10 · answered by Canadian_Investor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have an age problem now, you certainly will not have one later. As you get older, age is less important--I'm 59 and my wife is 50 and we're like two kids in heat. We still hold hands and do the 'etcetera' stuff like teenagers under the boardwalk. Also, she Indian and I'm American--no problems.
2006-10-02 15:15:53 · answer #11 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋