ok i have been dating a black guy for around 6 months now....we were both very much in love with each other but my family is racist and i didnt tell him in the beginning cuz i was afraid of losing him...i did tel him now tho.....and he wants to break up w/ me bc he feels extremely disrespected cuz i didnt tell him rite from the start. Once i told him the truth....i still didnt have the courage to tell my parents....and that broke his heart.....i admit i made a mistake...but i really i really do love him and so i overcame my fears and told my parents that he was black. Their reaction was completely different from wat i expected...they were totally approving. i told this to my bf....yet....it seems as if he thinks that if i truly did love him....i would have told them about him before our whole fight....he feels that i only told them bc he wanted me to tell them......im just trying to prove to him that i luv him cuz he jst doesnt believe me, im not wonderwoman....i was weak
2006-10-02 15:01:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
how do i make him understand that? he says he still loves me but he is truly....very deeply hurt.....what can i do to make him see the light? should i just wait until time mends his broken heart? should i keep groveling at his feet to prove that i love him? or should i jst go ahead with his decision leave him alone....maybe he needs that.....kind of like a reality check.. i dont kno! please help me! any responses from ppl who have gone thru similar situations are greatly appreciated
2006-10-02 15:01:46 · update #1
He doesn't seem old enough to handle a mature relationship. He is breaks up with you because you kept something which you knew was going to hurt his feelings, then he isn't the right person for you.
As for not telling your parents, the decision is yours to make when and if you tell them, not his. Again, he has to be able to see it from your side too but it seems he is being particularly selfish.
2006-10-02 15:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that the groveling must stop. If he loves and respects you he shouldn't want you to grovel at his feet anyways, it's so degrading. Tell him you are sorry, you made a mistake. You have never been in this situation and you didn't know how to act and maybe you didn't act appropriately and that hurt him. Explain to him that you truly are sorry and ask him if there is anything you can do to help his feelings. If he still is angry maybe he just does need some time to cool off. If you two love each other things will work out. Being in a multi cultural relationship is hard but if you two are good together then stick together and work it out. Good Luck!
2006-10-02 15:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old are you two??? He has to understand that in the beginning before you told you parents, you wanted to make sure you really wanted to be with him. Now that you know you love him, the time is now. Far as keeping what your parents are from him, that was the right decision. What goes on at home stays at home. You did nothing wrong. Let him register all of this, give him a little bit of space. If he truly love you, he aint going no where.
2006-10-02 15:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 18:43:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i can understand how you were scared to tell your family but he feels that if you loved him you wouldn't care what no body has to say... he probaly felt that you needed ur parents approval to love him and thats not right i think you should give a him a little bit of time for him to think things out and and then persue him.. Let him know exactly how your feeling before making any hasty descions and if he doesn't want you back because of it then you know he wasn't the one for you good luck and take care
2006-10-02 15:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by ~*Megan N MaRc~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all leave the black men alone. my daughter would not listen to me and he was just like u described, then his black ways came out on my daughter's face. a black man is not in a relationship with a white woman for love its for power and u are going to say that im full of it but down the road u will realize that your parents were right, but it will come at a high cost, which is your parents respect and your self esteem. GET OUT NOW WHILE U CAN
2006-10-02 15:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd sit him down for one last heart-to-heart. Explain to him why you did what you did, but if he wants to feel better about the relationship he has to accept it and move on, as do you. I completely sympathize with what happened, and I understand where he's coming from, but now it's his turn to be supportive of you. It sounds like a really difficult situation that you can't work through by yourself. Good luck.
2006-10-02 15:09:05 · answer #7 · answered by Jemma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I havent personally been thru anything like this, but if it were me, I think I would give him his space to sort things out, however in the meantime, I would at least tell him daily of my love for him. The ball is in his court now. Good luck to you both!!
2006-10-02 15:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men in general want you to feel guilty for small mistakes when in reality rhey could just accept things as they are and go on, we do as woman or we worked it out. Go on your way and quit making such a big deal out of it and he will too , or he's gone and nothings lost but a little hurt feeliing.
2006-10-02 15:08:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you give him some space to reflect on the situation.
He will come around if he really loves you.
You did the correct thing so dont be so critical of your self.
in a few months it will all blow over and you wont even remember this..
2006-10-02 15:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by sissybombay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋