My boyfriend and I just celebrated our 2 year anniversary. I got tickets to a concerts he's really excited to see and has wanted to go to since it was announced as an anniversary gift. I gave it to him in a card in his suitcase, since he had to travel for work on our anniversary. In return, I got nothing. He didn't get me a card. He didn't get me a gift. The only thing he really felt like doing to celebrate was to make dinner together at home.
I kinda feel hurt that he didn't take the time to do anything. I'm not saying I wanted anything special...just something to show he thought about the date...
Am I being too harsh?
2006-10-02 14:40:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes, you said he wanted to make dinner together....spending time together is a very special time....
2006-10-02 14:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're being too harsh. I can see why you'd be hurt. Did he get you anything for your first anniversary? Your birthday? Christmas? Some people are big on exchanging gifts, others are not. Maybe he forgot you're anniversary and now thinks getting you a belated gift would be bad form or make you mad. If he treats you well and you have a good relationship I wouldn't make a big deal about it.
2006-10-02 14:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends. You say he was traveling, but how does he show he loves you on a daily basis? Was your gift one of those once in a while things you do for him or do you do things all the time? To most, a quiet dinner at home, alone is a great gift, if followed by dessert in the bedroom. May be a little harsh, but you have to examine everything closer
2006-10-02 16:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get where you're coming from... it feels bad to not be acknowledged for a big event like an anniversary, especially when you went out and got something for him.
Just let him know that you were a little upset by it, and just want to know what it means. Don't be confrontational though, maybe he feels like you got the tickets for the two of you as a way of celebrating it, and didn't consciously realize that you didn't think of it that way.
2006-10-03 05:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by pceej 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're so too harsh. Just wait for another anniversary. Who knows, as he return, a surprise gift from him will be yours forever.
2006-10-02 15:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by vsg0818 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a gift if you expect something in return.
ALWAYS remember this.
Now if he NEVER gets you any gifts, if he's never the initiator of fun things to do (no, I don't mean sex) if he never surprises you, you need to sit him down and talk about it. But sometimes if your gift was special enough, him giving you something in return right away would take away from the specialness of yours! Be happy that he loves you!
2006-10-02 15:00:08 · answer #6 · answered by michael941260 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO, YOUR NOT BEING TOO HARSH IF MY BOYFRIEND DIDN'T GET ME A GIFT FOR OUR TWO YEAR ANNIVERSARY (WHICH HE DID) I WOULDA HAD A TOTAL B*TCH FIT! BUT HE KNOWS BETTER! YOU GOTTA MOLD THEM INTO THE BOYFRIENDS U WANT THEM TOO BE.. THEN AFTER THE GIFT EXCHANGING, MAKE DINNER TOGETHER!! :)
SINCE IT SEEMS LIKE THIS ALREADY HAPPENED AND ITS NOW TOO LATE TO HAVE A B*TCH FIT, MAYBE U SHOULD JUST TELL HIM HOW U FEEL!
2006-10-02 14:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, obviously it means more to you then it does to him, maybe you should talk about it and see if his feelings are still the same. Did you exchange gifts the first year??
2006-10-02 14:48:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over the drama. Just tell him you where expecting a bigger deal, he is just not used to dealing with a someone like you that is all.
2006-10-02 14:55:00 · answer #9 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he realize its your anniversary? Many guys just are clueless, it doesnt mean he doesnt love you though.
2006-10-02 15:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋