My Boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. He is 18 and I am 17. We only knew each other for a month before we started dating. We are both in our senior year of high school, and would not get engaged until at least the summer before college.
We have discussed it before on many occassions and I am just wondering, would you say we were too young? I have no doubts whatsoever about spending the rest of my life with him, and neither does he. What we are worried about is the reaction of our (mostly his) parents.
If anyone has been in this situation before, did it end happily?
I am really just looking to see if the majority of you out there think that we are too young.
Thanks for your input! I appreciate you taking your time to help.
2006-10-02 14:40:05 · 15 answers · asked by short n sweet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i know exactly what you are talking about. i was with my boyfriend for about 10 months and then we got engaged and it was kind of weird. i was 17 and he was 18 but we are still together. (im 18 now) we are both going to college together. i have no regrets!
2006-10-02 14:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would of said no its not too young about three years ago, but now my answer is yes. Well its not really the whole young thing its more that you two only been together for six months. If i looked at my relationships every single one the first year was the best, prince charming for sure, but its after a year I would say two years when things start to change. I think it would be wise to just date for another year at least before getting engaged. What the rush on getting married? Thats what i can never understand with people who rush right away into getting married. Its not going to change anything into better. Getting married is great but it takes so so much work.So I would have to say before getting married enjoy your boyfriend girlfriend realationship frist, its really important as well and its a very special time so enjoy that frist before jumping into anything more.
2006-10-02 23:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the benefit of your life experiences, I would wait. If you guys love eachother and are happy there's no need to get married so soon. I'm only 20, and I've been with my bf (who's 21) for a little over 2 years now. We're currently engaged and living together. We don't plan to marry until we're done with school and have a house together. Give yourself time, space things out. People change A LOT when they're 17/18 up until their mid to late 20's. We do a whole lot of growing up during that time. Good luck,hope this helps!
2006-10-02 22:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by *Juicy Princess* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please give it some time, I am not saying don't do it at all, but what are you losing if you wait a year? Nothing, if your still as happy and in love then go for it. You two are very young to go into that full speed. I was married at 18, it lasted 9 years. He was cheating, but even before I knew that I realized that I had missed out on my "fun" days, going out with my friends, dating the works! Life is so short, live it to the fullest extent, I wish I had. When we split I was left with two children and no job with zero help from him. Just give it a little time, and remember, if it's meant to be...it will be. Good luck hon.
2006-10-02 22:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by Phyllis D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my parents got married at 17 and 18, and had me a month later. it worked for about 5 years, but my dad was in and out because of the military. they were married for 15 years, but it wasn't at all a happy marrige. I guess it all depends on how willing each partner is willing to work to keep the marrige strong. ipersonally, i think you are too young. especially since you've only been going out for 6 months. you should wait at least a year longer. also, if you've had few boyfriends, maybe you should wait 'till you have had more experience with different relationships. who knows, this guy may be your soulmate, or you have yet to meet him.
2006-10-02 21:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by IG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, well I guess there is nothing wrong with becoming engaged, just dont get married until you both finish college. That will give you more time to get to know each other which is very important. Six months isnt long enough to get married, but to get engaged, I dont see a problem. Good luck.
2006-10-02 21:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes-too young! Been in your situation/ wait a few years- or have a very long engagement-so you could really get to know each other--what ever road you choose-just remember some times when you grow up -you also grow apart/ that's why it's of utmost importance to keep the engagement- long/ PS-good luck
2006-10-02 22:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait at least 3 or 4 years. You will change so much in the next 2 alone you won't even know yourself then as who you are now. It would most likely be a mistake. Just date and have fun.
2006-10-02 21:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by That's my final answer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you guys have had sex, then wait until you are atleast 21 because girls see clearly in their 20s but if you guys have not had sex . then his parents reaction might be that you might wiined up getting pregnant and their boys life is doomed for life. trust me you will feel diffrent if you wind up pregnat. about you having no doubt whatsoever about spending the rest of your life with him. that is a 1 in 200 relationship that starts like this because by 21, your reasoning ability will increase and you will be able to know if he is the one, but if you end up pregnant and eventually getting married now, trust me he will rebel against it later and you will end up heart broken, iam a guy at this stage we think with the lower part of our body, the person that should be concern is you and your future. dont waste your life until you are 21 then you can think straight.
2006-10-02 21:59:51 · answer #9 · answered by chief 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only is it too soon to be engaged but you are too young to even consider getting married! Take your time and grow up. What is your hurry? Your parents will flip out and they have a right to.
2006-10-02 21:42:25 · answer #10 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋