I made a new friend recently, she's hilarious , great person. but. She likes to climb on me and wants me to sit on her hand when we watch tv. I guess it warms her hand. this is OK with me, I don't really mind if she wants to be touchy-feely.
but since I'm not into girls, do I have a responsability to tell her not to do this? for her own sake I guess?
like: I have no prob teling her, if it comes up "I am never doing any sex with you" but should she stop touching me totally even if I don't care.?
2006-10-02 14:28:37 · 15 answers · asked by Marcy C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If it doesn't bother you, there's no reason for things to get complicated. If it starts to escalate to things that you aren't comfortable with, just tell her politely.
You never know, though. You might learn something about yourself.
2006-10-02 14:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by MotherFirefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't mind the touchy feely stuff, that's up to you. I think that you may have to speak up and let her know that you aren't interested in being more than her friend. The touchy feely sounds like she is flirting with you and you don't want to give her the wrong idea!
All you have to do is tell her what you told us. How great she is, how you don't mind the physical contact as is, but it won't go any further than that. I think she might appreciate the honesty! Good luck :)
2006-10-02 15:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by XxbrooklynnxX 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to draw out your boundaries with her just as if she were a guy you didn't want to date. You are already sending mixed signals. You need to clear the air with her before you blow a good friendship that could last a lifetime.
2006-10-02 14:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by my_iq_135 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay first off would you let a guy have his hand under your thigh? why would she want to do that. its a small test to see what she can get away with. just tell her that you are now uncomfortable with it and that she should stop. and yes you have to tell her what the boundries are if you dont its worse.
2006-10-02 14:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anyone is touching you and you're not okay with it, you have every right to say so. If you're cool with her physically buddying with you, then no, you don't have to tell her to back off.
Whether she's a lez or not has nothing to do with it. It's all about what you're comfortable with.
2006-10-02 14:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, You can just point out in conversations how you only like guys, your friendship shouldn't have to change unless you're uncomfy!!! But if she makes a move, then tell her how you feel.
2006-10-02 14:30:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless she makes a pass at you or asks you out then no you do not have to tell her. You can just mention your boyfriend once in passing if you are that uncomfortable.
2006-10-02 14:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by brattybard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should lay down the rules and tell her, "Hands off!" Can't you see she is trying to start something with you? She wants you to sit on her hand to warm it? Oh please! Wake up and smell the coffee!
2006-10-02 14:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are sitting your rear on her hand, and she likes to climb on you? Maybe you should sit on her hand awhile and find out.
2006-10-02 14:35:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you sit on a hetero guy's hand?
2006-10-02 14:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by Chuglon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋