After three months of maternity leave, an awful financial situation, his infidelity and my constant threats of putting him out of my house, my babys father and I split up. Now I want him back. I wrote him a four page letter telling him all the things that I would be willing to change, but he has no interest in reconciling. Instead he says mean and hurtful things to me, and shows no interest in seeing his son. He's dropped off money in the mailbox once since I put him out, but says he will never set foot in my house again. How can I get him to get past the anger and just talk to me? I've done the legal thing as far as support, but the system is a joke. They told me it would take up to six months to get the support going.
2006-10-02 14:26:12 · 8 answers · asked by mochachreme 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You change? He isn't interested in his child and you are begging him to come back. Screw that. You child deserves better even if you don't want better for your self. Thank your lucky stars you aren't married to the A$$ wipe and move on. Yes the system is a joke. Pull your self up find a way with out a man and move on. I don't know what part you played in the split but you said he cheated, why in hell are you begging him back. BE A WOMAN. A real MAN would be there for his child no matter the relationship with you. Open your eyes and good luck.
2006-10-02 14:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by That's my final answer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 23:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by fullem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on with your life. It sounds like you had a hard time with your ex and he with you. It is always hard to start a new way of life epically when a child is involved...but you can't force him to see you or the child and you are probably better off if you take a break from relationships and just concentrate on yourself and your baby for a while. Best of luck.
2006-10-02 14:30:33 · answer #3 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't change all sorts of things about yourself for someone else. If you two have these issues now they will never stop. The baby will grow up to learn these behaviors and probably feel emotionally tortured as a child for having to put up with that crap.
2006-10-02 14:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany V 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this guy isn't paying regular support for his child, and he doesn't want to see the child or you, he is a BUM. Why on Earth do you want this guy back? He's cheating trash!! And he doesn't love you. You are worth much more than this guy can ever offer you. The court will make him pay eventually. Move on with your life and build a better one for your child. You don't want this guy as a role model to your beautiful child.
2006-10-02 14:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should you be willing to change for a man? if hes not willing to be faithful to you then you dont need him. you should want him around as far as your son is involved but not because you cant live without him. you cant make him come back to you if he doesnt want to be there. you need to move on. sorry to hear this. i have been in a situation where my childs father didnt want to see the child but he wanted to sleep with me and that wasnt cool.
2006-10-02 14:33:02 · answer #6 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a BIG favor and forget him.
2006-10-02 14:32:06 · answer #7 · answered by Jay 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant make someone love you,move on
2006-10-02 14:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by greg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋