my baby's father pays child support and a month ago was our son's birthday should he buy our son a birthday gift, just because he pays me child support?Or is the child support included in the birthday,and christmas gifts?
2006-10-02 14:19:18 · 13 answers · asked by thickness 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he's any kind of father he would buy his son a gift!! Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a Daddy!
2006-10-02 16:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kathy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That will be up to him. Most would buy gifts, but he either will or not, and there is nothing u can do about it. It depends on the Dad and how much the Dad wants to keep involved with the child's life.
It would be a good idea to start keeping a notebook of visits, presents-no presents, and list anything else that would be helpful, should he ever decide a custody battle with u. The dates/time log will help u in your case. Even if u think u do not need it, it is a great precaution.
It would be a good idea to keep another notebook of the gifts you gave the child and keep all records of your grocery tickets, bills, and clothes or anything for school u paid for.
Sometimes, guys turn mean or just get tired of paying child support, u really will not know what triggered it--
Also, u probably work, so u need to keep all the records u can of your own money spent on the baby, so u can file the baby as a dependent on your taxes. That may or may not be an issue with u, but it might be in the future.
Just remember, guys look out for number 1, which is usually themself--I think it is instinct. The war tactics that they employ for any battle is tremendously underestimated!
Good luck to u, and I am sure u r taking great care of that child!
2006-10-02 21:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by guardianofdoves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the dad's relationship with the child. You should ask him. I don't think gifts should come from mom and dad if you are not together. My sd lives half here and half there. She gets gifts from both. But if the dad is just paying support and doesn't see the kid, and the gift would just stay at your place, maybe he thinks why bother.
Put your feelings for him aside, talk to him, just tell him that your son felt bad not getting a gift form him (if indeed he noticed). He may not notice now, but he will someday.
Good luck. Always think of your son first and you anger/emotions for your ex later.
2006-10-02 21:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly believe that the father should be involved as much as he wants to be because when he is an old old man only he will have to face how he handled his life.
I don't think that child support should be part of their xmas or birthday gifts I think that the father should WANT to celebrate with them and that the child support is considered only for everyday things.
2006-10-02 21:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by Candace Rideout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a real man and father he would WANT to and WOULD buy the child something for his birthday and Christmas.
If he's not doing either he must be ok with just being a sperm donor that pays support.
2006-10-02 21:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by Daughtry-luver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support is support...it is for diapers, formula, clothes, education and health care. Not Christmas and birthday gifts. Those have to come from him voluntarily...you cannot force someone to buy gifts. If he wants to buy gifts then he will do so and you should not say anything about it. Maybe he doesn't have enough money....or maybe he assumed you would do the buying or maybe he had no idea what to get....
2006-10-02 21:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gifts are in addition to child support. The child support is to help you pay for nessecities, such as food and clothes.
And, in reference to another answers comment, NO, the gifts do not have to stay at the dads house. They are for the kid to play with or use. He should be able to do what he wants with them.
2006-10-02 21:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should buy a gift because he loves his child and, no, it is not included in child support. But, it is his business if he chooses to buy the gift. Pay attention to what you do and stop trying to control what he does.......mommy dearest!
2006-10-02 21:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he should buy his son a gift even though he does pay child support. he should also spend the day with his son!!!
2006-10-02 21:21:38 · answer #9 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child support goes for expenses such as living cost light bills water bills and all that other good stuff he still should buy yall child gifts
2006-10-02 21:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋