If you are in a relationship and you find out that your girl or man logged into a porn site and were having live girls or guys do things for them - would you be pissed? Would you bring it to their attention? Would you break it off. I just logged into my boyfriends' email and noticed he paid to have a girl do some things live. Not sure what it was. But I logged on to the website and he had one girl listed as his favorite.
2006-10-02 14:17:37 · 26 answers · asked by SxyPR 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Other - Entertainment
Porn for guys is about as normal as having a cup of coffee in the morning. Now...that being said - there are levels. Paying someone to do something for you live on the web is borderline problem. Bringing to his attention will not change anything. You logged on to his email because you didnt' trust him for some reason. Relationship is already doomed, sorry. Go with your instinct...you logged on for a reason - you knew.
2006-10-02 14:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by neetah22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your relationship worth working for? If no, then break it off. If it is, then you should talk to him about it. Don't 'confront' him because it'll result in automatic defensive behavior and a fight. Tell him it makes you uncomfortable and you would prefer that he not look at that. If he says he wants to then you need to consider if you can live with that. Porn is not good in a relationship. It destroys your self esteem, even if you don't feel threatened by it now, you will. Be prepared that he may be pissed (rightfully so) that you logged into his e-mail.
You may just want to admit you were wrong to start with so he can't argue with you about that and then you'll get down to the real issue. Good luck.
2006-10-02 14:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by kcdc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would be upset but alot depends on his side of the story too. I would definately bring it to his attention but not in a rude or mean way. Maybe he has some issues that you could both work out together?
2006-10-02 14:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by Chantell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the people saying you are spying for checking his email. You have no business doing that. It's dishonorable in the extreme.
Maybe you should ask him what it is he wants sexually. If you don't want to help him with his fantasy, then maybe you need to consider that sexuality is a way of pleasing your partner. It's not always about what YOU want. The best lover is the kind who's not afraid to explore sexuality with their partner, rather than putting up brick walls about what they will and will not do in bed.
2006-10-02 14:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider that cheating absolutely. That would really piss me off. There is a distance when it's pre-recorded and it's not specifically for one person. But when a man pays a woman to do specific things for him, live, then that's a little too close to home for me.
Besides, shouldn't he want YOU to do those things for him, not some strange woman on the Internet?
2006-10-02 14:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
first off yeah not a total breech of trust but not a real solid answer on that. but yeah you need to talk to him about why you dont like it and why you think he needs to stop. if you just tell him to stop all he will do is hide it better. she is giving him something he feels wrong asking or its a safer way to ask for things. not a resonable excuse but most likely he wont ask you as readily as he will ask a cam girl. you need to actually talk to him not yell at him for cheating.
2006-10-02 14:21:06 · answer #6 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does he know you log into his email?
A relationship where the partners cannot trust each other is not a relationship.
2006-10-02 14:20:11 · answer #7 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
guys are addicted to porn. i dont know why, but we are. i think the biggest reason is that porn is a fantasy, the porn stars always do things that normal girls wont do. so, if you want him to stop looking at the porn sites, maybe you should make your sex life more interesting. get kinky. then he'll be addicted to you, and not porn. so, i wouldnt get mad, i would just ask him what he told the girl to do, and then i would ask him why he couldnt ask you to do that. and if your answer is, because im not like that, then maybe like i said, you need to spice things up in bed.
2006-10-02 14:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
i think you should confront him and then tell him that you needa break up with him cuz i kno how that feels cuz sumthin like that happened to me....then if he triees to give youan excuse, tell him that you not gonna deal wit no crap and that you deserve better than that and that he didnt know how good he had it, and now..its GONE
2006-10-02 14:32:07 · answer #9 · answered by rika-gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't be honest with the person, what is the point? It can be from either side. Does the person know you access their e-mail? If not, that's secretive also.
2006-10-02 14:20:26 · answer #10 · answered by pump_runner 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋