my husband works with mostly women, some single, some not! Now there have been at least 3 times that he's gone out after work to bars, with his co-workers (he says including guys) and not invited me! We also have a 1 yr old boy and we dont' get out much TOGETHER as it is. we havent' been getting along well b/c of all this and other things, i told him i was upset b/c he doesn't include me in the fun, so one time he TELLS me, "i'm going out after work with everyone to get away from you", as if that's not mean enough he goes to a place that he and i BOTH have gift cards for and he takes MY gift card to go have fun with it, then he calls me to tell me how much fun he's having then last friday i called him from work to see if he wanted to meet for lunch, KNOWING we were goin to be in the same area, he told me no b/c he already had plans to go to lunch with his GIRL co-wkrs! why wouldn't he invite me!? i never met anyone he works with b/c he doesn't invite me to things like that! WHY
2006-10-02 14:06:43 · 11 answers · asked by Sarah R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what a loser he is. that made me so mad that i could punch him hoping to bring some senses into his head. Okay you know what, let him do what he wants, you cant get him to stop, but what you can do is go out yourself with some friends girls and guys. while he stays home and babysits, if he wont then you need to get your butt out of there get a place of your own with your child. if he cares for his child he will want you to come back as well and shape up but if he doesnt than too bad for him. he needs to grow up he has a family now. give him that wake up call, when he comes home tell him that you have plans with some friends on saturday so hes going to have to watch the child. go out and brag on how much fun you have. if he gets mad about it tell him that this is what you go through all the time, tell him you would rather it be the two of yous going out the same time together but he obviously doesnt want you around, so this is how its going to be. You shouldnt take this at all, get out while you can. Dont depend on this man, he will have to be in your life forever seeing as hes the father of your child but doesnt mean you have to put up with this crap. And start making some descions on your own. and start taking control of your life instead of letting him walk all over you!
2006-10-02 16:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe you have a right to be upset. I also think you better get things straightened out or he'll keep on playing you. He sounds like a very immature and spiteful person. I hope you have some other interests of your own (I'm not talking about another guy). You need to tell him you are going out for an evening and he needs to get his sorry butt home to be with his son. It is also important for you to get out and have some time away from the baby. Don't be too needy, don't depend on him to make you happy and complete. Find other things to do, he may get the picture that you don't need him for everything. If he gives you a hard time, tell him you wouldn't have to go out if the 2 of you spent more time together. Don't let him control you. A loving mature man would not treat you like that.
2006-10-02 14:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanne K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what to do: go out with your girlfriends, without him, hire a sitter, do the same to him as he does to you....show him how it feels. Above all, have your own life without him. Join the gym. Get a part time job. Have fun without him. Then, he will want to be with you, because you are being a challenge. Men love a challenge, even if youre married. Dont ever think he has total control of you or that you are totally his. You are your own person and have your own life separate from him. Good luck
2006-10-02 14:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by bobbie jo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason why you shouldn't meet his coworkers if everything is on the up and up. Why is it that men package issues with the children in with the wife?? Somehow the wife is blamed for the stress of being a parent when she is the one who does most of the parenting. I think he is seeing you as more of "the mother to his child" than as his wife. Sometimes men have trouble separating the two, especially with their first born. This can lead him to find a single woman without kids to have fun with. It's not right. He needs to get his priorities straight and treat you with the respect and dignity you deserve.
2006-10-02 15:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by LadyLee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not a very understanding husband to choose his co-workers over his family...I mean how much time do you need to be with them.....he's sees them all day and now all evenings as well....there's seems to be something going on that he obviously don't want you to know about...If I were you I would get a sitter and just pop in on them...Go check things out....
2006-10-02 14:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Indeed, it sounds very fishy to me. You definitely have a right to be hurt and angry. I would not like it to happen to me. Maybe you should check it out as Mechelle suggested. Also,I do not
know if this is part of the reason or not ...but it is said that men are often jealous of the attention a mother gives her baby.
2006-10-02 14:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys specialy when they are young act as if they're single, even if they have kids and all. Dont let him cause its unfair for you to be married and for him to be acting as if he isnt.
Maybe you are a control freak and he doesnt like been with you cause of that, even if he loves you. Try doing something fun with him, sometimes go out without your kid, u know? But dont let him be acting like that.
I dont think its ok for a married guy to have girl friends, u know?
2006-10-02 14:18:58 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Doña! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't he want you to go?? That would be my question. I had a boyfriend that did that to me all the time. I later found out, he didn't want me there, because he was hooking up with someone. I of course dumped his ***!!
2006-10-02 14:38:48 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell you the Thruth i think he is seeing some one or he would take you to party with when he goes out you go out and find him to see what he is up to but be set for bad news good luck to you
2006-10-02 14:30:51 · answer #9 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
play like you don't care. Don't show any attention to it, then start telling him you are going out. Not with who, what, when or where. Dress up really cute and leave. That will get his attention. do what he does to you
2006-10-02 14:48:56 · answer #10 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋