My wife and I just found out she was pregnant with our first child. Any advice you could give me as a husband? Anything you wish your husband would have done, or things your husbands did do to make your life easier? Thanks!
2006-10-02 13:58:29 · 20 answers · asked by Nick P 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
LOL....My wife has been on the couch naping for hours.
It does make me a little lonely, but I guess I could use this time to do some chores. Thanks ladies for all your advice.
2006-10-02 14:46:09 · update #1
Thanks for all the advice. You all gave me such good answers.
2006-10-03 16:08:08 · update #2
backrubs
little surprises here and there
do chores without her having to ask
carry heavy things
tell her she's so damn bEAUTIFUL you just can't handle it.
kisses.
make love to her without wisecracks about hitting the babies head (don't flatter yerself, you ain't that big). haha
take her out to dinner to nice places.
romance her.
because in a few months, the TWO of you will be THREE and alone time, romantic time...well, it will be a thing of the past for a while.
good luck!
2006-10-02 14:01:22 · answer #1 · answered by just that girl 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
The best thing my husband did was just be the calm in the middle of my storm, dealing with family and work stress, plus the horrid sickness and such. Just the fact that you are asking this is a good sign that you really care about her, good for you. Also, just try to be thoughtful. Many men are turned off by their woman being pregnant. Thankfully, my husband wasnt one of those men. The fact that he could still find me so attractive when i felt so horrible, was comforting. Its just the little things, like the way you talk about it around other people, or opening her door, or helping her get up, or making 2am slurpee runs, or giving her a massage... It was all wonderful. He was the one person I could be around that didnt stress me out and just let me relax. We were only 19 and 20, so we took a lot of flack from people over having a child, but its the best thing that has ever happened for us. Also, when she is "nesting" just let her go for it, as long as she isnt hurting herself. Keep her away from harsh cleaning chemicals and kitty litter boxes, they can pose health threats. Just keep an eye on her, and pick up on the subtle things you can do to help her. Be loving and protective, but dont be overwhelmingly and annoyingly so. Just be there for her. if she cries, let her talk it out, dont try to "fix" her unless she asks you to. hold her hand, stroke her hair, talk to her belly, tell her how beautiful she is, pick out baby stuff with her, and most of all ENJOY, its the ride of a lifetime!
2006-10-02 14:18:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help her with housework and cooking- that really helps. let her take naps withoutfeeling guilty. Try as much as possible not to argue, massages.... it may feel like u are pampering her and u may get annoyed after a while, but being pregnant is hard work, a full-time job all in itself. Dont get offended at mood swings, go to the doctors with her and if she has complaints or concerns- LISTEN. But id say an important thing is just let her rest and do the chores she would be doing. It helps alot. And when the baby comes, wake up with him/her as well, and just help all around too.
2006-10-02 14:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by azuleyes404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's going to go through a change of everything..emotionally and physically. Be nice, be as helpful as possible don't let her stress out. As the pregnancy goes on..her back and feet/legs are going to be hurt so a professional mom-to-be massage once a month would be nice (starting on the 2nd trimester) or you could give her a nice back and feet rub every night (believe me THEY HURT!) Spend as much as time together as possible... you WILL NOT (not much anyway) have it once the baby's born. You sound like a wonderful husband who would do anything to make her happy so you'd do great no matter what you do...just be yourself. And oh btw..morning sickness (or all day sickness for me) does happen... it's not just in our heads :) Congratulation and good luck!
2006-10-02 14:10:09 · answer #4 · answered by flirtalicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well one thing that my boyfriend does is make sure I'm not under any stress. With our first baby, he did everything around the house for me and made sure that I didn't stay on my feet too long, even though I enjoyed it was a little annoying. So just do as much to help as you can. And be ready to eat when every she eats because this is my second pregnancy and I love it when my boyfriend eats when I eat.
2006-10-02 18:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by BlackBerry DymondTink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just always be there for her. Help her out alot and offer to do things for her. Women get really emotional when they are pregnant, don't take anything personally and try not to get mad if she says something to offend you. They don't mean what they say. Also, be very involved in everything to do with the baby. That will show her that you really care.
2006-10-02 14:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by lexi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a great hubby.
check out: http://www.babycenter.com
this gives you week by week information on how the pregnancy is going. Also tells what dads might be going threw. Also you can watch videos about child birth and stuff.
Things I love my hubby to do:
touch my tummy(just sitting there and he reaches over)
lays on or next to tummy( bonding early)
brings me home treats(my fav ice cream)
brings home cute baby things(just for fun, being involved)
cooks dinner sometimes(helps through morning sickness)
pamper me(manicure, foot massage)
tells me he loves me often(mood fix)
Things I do not enjoy:
gets mad/frustrated when I have a "moment"
does not help with housework
expects me to always feel good
sad when I want to just relax and nap.
good luck and I am glad you want to be a great dad. This is a great way to start out.
2006-10-02 14:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to make things easier for here and it would be your best bet to take classes to know what to expect so u dont start freaking out while shes giving birth cause if u do u will scare her thats all the advice i can think of anything else hope it helps
2006-10-02 15:03:25 · answer #8 · answered by freak_4_south_park 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am using my sister-in-laws yahoo, but I am going to be a first-time mom soo...one thing you men could do is to not act like we are helpless, but to take care of our needs while in the 10 months
2006-10-02 14:07:12 · answer #9 · answered by Scratch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!! Just be prepared, she will probably be emotional, VERY tired, sick feeling. When she complains, don't roll your eyes!! Just be there to support her, and be ready to run to the store in the middle of the night, just because she wants chocolate ice cream.
2006-10-02 14:07:43 · answer #10 · answered by tnmomof2as 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋