help!!! i need advice!! ten points to best answer...?

Question

ok, this is going to be laughable lame..i am afraid of penises.

dont get me wrong, ive dealt with them before :) im not even a virgin.. but it takes me a while to get there with each guy bc i am afraid to touch their penis! i know it sounds funny but its kinda horrible... liek well be making out and then i want to do it but im scared bc i get so freaked out to feel it warm and solid and squirming etc..


anyway, i have a guy ive been just kissing and stuff with.. and i want to go further with him.. like THERE. but im afraid to touch it... just tell me soemthing to help me get over the fear..!! please!!


ps i know i am lame. and this is kinda funny but serious answers please!! imagine what you would tell your gf if she was afraid to touch yours!

Answer 1

U can picture it like a large banana if this can help.

Answer 2

What you've got has a name : ithyphallophobia (Yes is hard to pronounce) It is a
Fear of seeing, thinking about or having an erect penis.

surprisingly this common phobia causes countless people needless distress.

To add insult to an already distressing condition, most ithyphallophobia therapies take months or years and sometimes even require the patient to be exposed repeatedly to their fear. We believe that not only is this totally unnecessary, it will often make the condition worse. And it is particularly cruel as ithyphallophobia can be eliminated with the right methods and just 24 hours of commitment by the phobic individual.

Known by a number of names - Medorthophobia, Phallophobia, Ithyphallophobia, and Fear of an Erect Penis being the most common - the problem often significantly impacts the quality of life. It can cause panic attacks and keep people apart from loved ones and business associates. Symptoms typically include shortness of breath, rapid breathing, irregular heartbeat, sweating, nausea, and overall feelings of dread, although everyone experiences ithyphallophobia in their own way and may have different symptoms. .

Though a variety of potent drugs are often prescribed for ithyphallophobia, side effects and/or withdrawal symptoms can be severe. Moreover, drugs do not "cure" ithyphallophobia or any other phobia. At best they temporarily suppress the symptoms through chemical interaction.

The good news is that the modern, fast, drug-free processes of The CTRN Phobia Clinic will train your mind to feel completely different about an erect penis, eliminating the fear so it never haunts you again.

IF YOU THINK IS THIS SERIOUS THEN I WOULD LOOK FOR HELP , IF YOU DONT THINK IF IS AS MUCH AS A PHOBIA AND SOMETHING THAT YOU COULD OVERCOME ON YOUR OWN THEN JUST TRY AND DO RELAXATION METHODS , USE YOUR IMAGINATION TO THINK ABOUT THE PENNIS AS SOMETHING ELSE THAT YOU LIKE , UNTIL YOU GET THE HANG ON IT , IT DEPENDS HOW OLD YOU ARE TOO , IF YOU HAVENT BEEN WITH THAT MANY GUYS , ITS COMMON , WHEN I WAS A TEENAGER , AND UNEXPERIENCE I FELT THE SAME WAY ABOUT HOW TO APROACH PENISES , SO IF YOU THINK IS THAT , THEN DONT RUSH IT AND WAIT TILL YOU ARE VERY VERY COMFORTABLE WITH YOUR PARTNER , AND REMEMBER TO USE CONDOMS , ROCK ON!!!

Answer 3

Speaking as a man who has a penis, (joke) I think that I wouldn't want you to do that until you felt comfortable. Part of the art of lovemaking is getting the person to the point that whatever blocks they have mentally are not there anymore. I mean I dont want to put it all on the man, but tell him what the deal is, because ultimately its on him to get you to the point that a) you don't mind touching 'it' or b) you so hot and bothered that you aren't even thinking about it. So tell him and dialouge about so he can plan accordingly, if he is worth giving yourself to he will work with you. If not screw him, (the other way), I mean look at the bright side, there are plent of girls out here with the opposite of your problem. Now that I think about , , , ,, ,, , whats ya name?

Answer 4

I don't know how to advise you on this, other than to just put the fear out of your mind and when you have the chance. Take it in your hand and feel it, rub it and try and get use to it.

I don't know if this would help or not, or how you could get one, but maybe you could get a realistic, rubber penis that girls/women masturbate with.

Just an idea. I hope you can get past this and feel ok about it.

:)

Answer 5

okay ive been through a situation sorta of like this, and the best answer is to tell your friend how you feel, just be like well since you act like you dont really like Anthony, i think hes kinda cute and i was wondering if it would bother you if i liked him. but at the same time this guy kinda sounds like a total player if when their dating he was asking you for a picture and being flirty. So id watch out for him but for now just be friendly as in friends, until you get an answer from your friend.

Answer 6

maybe it's just that you aren't really into the guy. Yeah you like making out with him. But do you really want to have sex with him? There's been times that I made out with an ex but I didn't want anything more. I just basically saw him as a friend and I couldn't see myself having sex with him. I wasn't attracted enough. So maybe you either aren't as attracted to him as you think you are or you aren't ready to have sex with him. I"ve had the same feeling a few times. And I just chalked it up to not being into the guy enough. Hope that helps!

Answer 7

Wait until you grow up then try again !

I'm not trying to be sarcastic but really ...come on .

Answer 8

thats gotta be one of the weirdest questions I've ever heard. but ahhhh.... just try and relax and keep in mind it's all natural.

Answer 9

You do have a serious problem---but it is not touching they guys' thingi---you are way too young to have had all this experience already---maybe your unconscious mind is trying to tell you to stop it....

Answer 10

If it Squirms are you sure it is a penis or a pet snake . Go ahead and touch it , it wont bite .