i am a dad and i have kids 12 and 15...they moved in with me because i asked mom if they could live with me since she had them for 10 yrs...she reluctantly agreed because she didnt want the kids to go thruough a custody battle....now the kids have told her that they want to come back to her after 2 yrs....i work alot and she is remarried and a stay at home mom and says she can be there more for them....i never put my son in sports because i didnt think he was ready ans she is livid that i wouldnt help her get him into sports last year...is it fair that i should have tpo pay a lawyer lots of money....why should i have to fight for them i think i was doing ok
2006-10-02 13:56:10 · 6 answers · asked by daddyoohh2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to think about what is in the best interest of your children. If she is a stay at home mom and can offer herself to them more than you can, maybe this is what they need. You can still be a huge part of their lives even if they don't live with you. Putting your kids through a custody battle at their ages would really be trying for them. Listen to your kids' reasons why they want to go back. As far as sports, they are a good outlet for children. It keeps them active and most schools have wonderful programs for them and it keeps them motivated to keep up their grades. Not only that, it is proven that kids who play sports stay out of trouble more. I just think that you need to be mature about your decision and think about what is best for them, not for you. Good luck!
2006-10-02 14:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At ages 12 and 15 the kids will speak for them self and the judge will take that into his ruling and if they want to go home to Mom most likely the judge will let them.
2006-10-02 21:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its what's best for the children.. they are old enough to know what they want as well and their mother.
Sit down and have an open conversation about there life.. No need to have bad blood when you can simply sit down and make some type of arrangements and get it notarized of the betterment of the children
2006-10-02 21:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They want to go back to her, let them go. They are old enough to tell the judge their wants. Plus, does mom still have the original custody?
Clearly you aren't giving them what they need. It isn't easy being a single parent.
2006-10-02 21:00:01 · answer #4 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best to share the custody always! Show the babies that you can work it out with mom! That is a great example for them!
2006-10-02 20:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by LadyL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good googa ma
i wish my dad would of asked me to live with him because my mom made my life a living hell
an now i'mfucked up in th head about men
2006-10-02 21:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋